Barb,Thanks for sharing the pictures!Best wishes to you and your loved ones.Ray
About Lugnut -- Patrick Malone
Many of us have come to know Patrick Malone (Lugnut) as a friendly, helpful, knowledgeable and kind individual. He is a frequent and enthusiastic contributor to our analog discussion forum. He has initiated only 17 threads, but responded to 559 threads. I would guess that many, if not most, of us can recall a time when Pat replied with helpful advice to a question we posted or helped us track down a rare recording. I have come to love Pat as a friend, and to respect him as a man, and I suspect many of you share those feelings.
Today I write to share difficult news with you. Pat has been diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer. It has yet to be determined whether surgery will even be worth it. If surgery is performed, most or all of the stomach will be removed, and Pat would face a difficult and long post-op period in the hospital. The medical course is still uncertain, but will be determined soon. Whatever is decided, it will not be easy or pleasant.
Something may be planned in the future to assist the family. For now, Pat could use some of the friendship he so often and willingly showed us. You can email Pat at: lugnut50@msn.com. You can also mail cards, letters ... or whatever. You may email me for Pat's mailing address. My email is: pfrumkin1@comcast.net.
I hope to spend a few days with Pat in Idaho or Nebraska (from which he hails) soon. Between this news, my legal work, getting ready for family arriving for the holidays, Audio Intelligent, and trying to make plans to visit Pat, my head is spinning. If you email me and I don't respond, please understand that I am not ignoring you, but rather simply do not have time to reply.
Pat may or may not have time to respond to posts here, to emails, or to cards mailed to him. But he has asked me to convey to each and every one of you that he has cherished your friendship, your comradery, and sharing our common hobby on this great website.
As we prepare for our holiday season celebrations, and look forward to -- as we should -- enjoying this time of year, I ask that you keep Pat and his family in mind ... and softly offer up, in quiet moments in the still of night and early morning, prayers for Pat and his family. God bless.
Warmest regards to all,
Paul Frumkin
Today I write to share difficult news with you. Pat has been diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer. It has yet to be determined whether surgery will even be worth it. If surgery is performed, most or all of the stomach will be removed, and Pat would face a difficult and long post-op period in the hospital. The medical course is still uncertain, but will be determined soon. Whatever is decided, it will not be easy or pleasant.
Something may be planned in the future to assist the family. For now, Pat could use some of the friendship he so often and willingly showed us. You can email Pat at: lugnut50@msn.com. You can also mail cards, letters ... or whatever. You may email me for Pat's mailing address. My email is: pfrumkin1@comcast.net.
I hope to spend a few days with Pat in Idaho or Nebraska (from which he hails) soon. Between this news, my legal work, getting ready for family arriving for the holidays, Audio Intelligent, and trying to make plans to visit Pat, my head is spinning. If you email me and I don't respond, please understand that I am not ignoring you, but rather simply do not have time to reply.
Pat may or may not have time to respond to posts here, to emails, or to cards mailed to him. But he has asked me to convey to each and every one of you that he has cherished your friendship, your comradery, and sharing our common hobby on this great website.
As we prepare for our holiday season celebrations, and look forward to -- as we should -- enjoying this time of year, I ask that you keep Pat and his family in mind ... and softly offer up, in quiet moments in the still of night and early morning, prayers for Pat and his family. God bless.
Warmest regards to all,
Paul Frumkin
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Hi Everyone - Thank you for your continual posts to this thread. I really appreciate all the concern and well wishes coming my way. I am staying very busy with my job at the post office and taking care of Gracie. I sure miss Pat's wisdom and guidance, and mostly his presence and love. On December 15th it will be our 32nd wedding anniversary. I am going to celebrate by surrounding myself with dear friends for music and conversation. Pat would have wanted it that way. The picture of Pat and I was taken the day that he can home from the hospital after surgery. The picture of Gracie and I will be Christmas 2005. I am praying for each of you because I know that you are hurting too. God Bless. Barb http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/barbandgracie.jpg http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/barbandpat.jpg |
J Sonic (and anyone else wanting to write to Barb)... please write me for Barb's address. When I last spoke with Barb, she was of course sad, but she was doing well. Howard, that's wonderful that Barb will be visiting you. I'm sure that will lift her spirits. Thanks for sharing that info with us. Best regards to all, Paul |
It has been almost a month now since our friend has passed. I would like to know from Barb or Paul how the Malone family is doing. The puppy is beautiful. Pat is still in my thoughts. I hope everyone is healing well. Also Paul if you could post the address of where we could send those letters to Pat's grandchildren I'd appreciate it. Thanks you, J.SONIC |
Hi Barb, Very cute puppy, almost as cute as our "Honey". She is a mix of Papilion and American Eskimo. I have pictures that I will e-mail directly to you. I am very sorry to hear of Pat's passing. You have my sincere condolences. Pat was one of a kind, which probably means that he married one. I admire you both. |
On this sunny Thanksgiving I find myself thankful for my many friends and the time we have each been given with our loved ones. I also find my thoughts drifting to those who are not so fortunate and to those who have lost. Barb, you are in my prayers on this first Thanksgiving day without Pat. I know you are thankful Pat is with God now, but you are human too, and loneliness is part of the experience here on earth. I pray for your peace and that those closest to you are able to fill a portion of the void you feel. I also pray for those on this site I have met who are going through hard times. Sick family members is something I know a few of you are experiencing, and I empathise with you. Thanksgiving is a time to look back on the year and give thanks for the gifts we have received. Despite the challenges many of us have faced this past year, there is always room for thanks. I thank Pat and Barb for their generosity of offering their souls so freely. I am forever changed. Barb, not a day has passed where I have not brought you into my thoughts and prayers. I hope you are well. I love you. JD |
Several thoughts: 1. Barb, that IS a beautiful puppy. I hope it brings you much warmth, companionship and joy. What breed is it? 2. Snofun (Les), CEDIA's ELF foundation is a great organization. It installs home theaters in children's hospital wards. But it doesn't accept used gear, and used gear is something that we collectively can, from time to time, donate to allow someone to bring entertainment into their home. Zaikesman comments that we might stick closer to "home" with our giving, and perhaps, indeed, arranging some regular, official, award of home theaters and stereos to a deserving person is beyond our capability (and perhaps beyond our purpose). I anticipate that Barb (likely with my or someone else's assistance) will be auctioning or selling some of Pat's music collection. Maybe our giving -- in the absence of some specific request from Barb -- can for now be limited to bidding generously on these items. But if anyone knows of someone in Leslie's shoes (paralyzed by a drunk driver) or in some other quality of life threatening situation, and who lacks the means to purchase their own system, then I encourage you to turn to this group and see if we can't arrange something like the "Leslie Project" for them. I was absolutely stunned by this group's generosity in the "Leslie Project," and I suspect their kindness is not exhausted. 3. Last, a huge thank you to Audiogon. It's no secret this website exists not just to support this great hobby, but also to generate revenue. Audiogon did not have to let the "Leslie Project" thread be posted, and it did not have to allow this thread to be posted and to continue. THANK YOU, Steve (a/k/a Mr. Audiogon). Your kindness shows that that you consider this to be not just a commercial marketplace, but also a community. With respect and gratitude, I salute you, sir. Best regards to all, Paul |
Barb hang in there,we have the same thing in common, I also lost the love of my life,its not really the end of their life, but its an upgrade for what they have here on earth,when I first found out audiogon, I always see the post of Pat, thank you very much and May the Lord Bless you and strengthen you and your children and family. |
Barb, thanks for the photos, what a beautiful puppy. Take care of yourself, and try to get plenty of rest. As this can be a very stressful time, and you need to take care of yourself now. We all know how detrimental stress can be to our well being. I'm sure Pat is smiling bright up above from the wonderful tribute, and he's hoping Gracie helps you with your transition as well. Thanks for the update (and photos!), God bless, and keep in touch. Warmest Regards, John |
Paul, thank you so much for initiating this thread. Nrchy, I agree with you so much. sad day for us if we lose sight of the bigger picture.... I knew pat a little. One thing I love about Pat and have thought about so much during past few weeks is that he just was a pure human being. you got what you saw. He did not pretend anything. he did not appear to think of himself as a hero....he did not appear to want to be remembered as a hero....he did not ask for favors and volunteered to help.....he just was a good person and that put him in an envious position... this thread, thanks to paul, other audiogon members and above all pat, has brought us closer to one another. We found something else to relate to each other -- maybe something more meaningful: our feelings -- we talked about our own losses, our pains, our joys, and of course our great toys. Big men, and grown up women with bigger toys feeling helpless....writing on this thread or to each other in private talking about the emptiness they feel.....people who have never even met in person.....could you ever before imagine a big boy with a big krell admit crying? Pat's life and death, in a way made many of our toys - koetsu, Graham, Tri-planar, dynavector, ZYX (that includes UNIverse), meaningless....at the end we have ourselves, our loved ones and our memories....and yes, this little hobby helps create and share some of these memories... love you pat...wish everyone peace. mehran |
Hello Friends - I wanted to share a couple of puppy pictures with you. Gracie came to live with me yesterday and she has adjusted well. She is constantly by my side in everything I do. She is going to be a great companion. We had a wonderful tribute to Pat on Sunday. About 50+ friends stopped by to share stories, look at pictures, and listen to music. I am still busy with family and friends here and they are taking good care of me. But for some reason I feel so very exhausted. The moon is full and the blues are playing. Later and Love to all. Barb http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/puppy1.jpg http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/puppy2.jpg |
Nate, you certianly do not need to thank me, it was an honor to help Barb Sunday and I will always be available in the future. Sunday's event in Pat's memory was very nice. Barb had her lovely mother and sisters visiting. There was a steady stream of friends coming and going all day. The mood was mellow but upbeat. The music was playing and the food was great but of course the reminiscencing took center stage Sunday. I heard several new stories to add to the familiar ones. I am going to have to find out more about that early 70's canoe trip that may have inspired the movie "Deliverence". The part I wish everyone could have shared is the table full of photographs from Pat's life. Some very funny as well as touching pictures. There were also the usual baby, prom, wedding, what not to wear in polyester and the sleeping off whatever happened the night before shots. Cheers |
Paul: You of course are the initiator of this thread and have had more contact with the Malones than most of us. I'll just put down my own take here and others can respond if and as they see fit. My own feeling is that Barb shouldn't be asked to weigh in about the family's situation here on the thread, but perhaps someone like yourself could function as a private intermediary. If it turns out they could make use of some assistance, that's the direction I'd most like to go in. Maybe we could have a special Audiogon auction with proceeds to be donated. (Of course it's possible Audiogon might shy away from setting such a precedent, seeing as Pat won't be the only member here who dies, and although it would be charitable as an action, it would not be giving to a charity. Personally though, I don't think this need be an automatic disqualifier; for instance, over the years I've attended several benefit music shows held at area clubs for local performers who've needed help with medical bills or similar.) I suspect that trying to set up some kind of more permanent or general fund for this type of cause wouldn't be practical for a variety of reasons. And though I know Pat said he thought it was a nice idea for a tribute, I myself can't get behind the "audio scholarship" proposal (don't need to go into why here, but obviously others disagree with me on that one). Summing up: My opinion FWIW is that more limited and more direct action is both best and most workable, provided that it's needed and wanted. However if Barb doesn't feel the same, then maybe she can let us know their prefered charity(s) for making memorial donations. |
Hi Paul - CEDIA's ELF Foundation sounds like something Pat would have approved of (from their site) - The Elf Foundation is a non-profit charity organization that acts as a rallying point for consumer electronics industry dealers, media, manufacturers, representatives, and industry organizations for the express purpose of designing and installing entertainment systems in Children's Hospitals and ancillary facilities throughout North America. You can visit the Elf Foundation at http://www.elfsystems.org |
Memorial for Pat Davt has offered a Lugnut memorial "scholarship" for one night's lodging at the Rocky Mountain Audio Fest. Nrchy inquires about other ideas. One issue is whether our work should focus on the Malone family, whether it should be expanded beyond them, or both. Pat was concerned for his daughter's, Amanda's welfare. She and her husband, Nick, do website design and work. I've been using them for Audio Intelligent's website (which should soon be improved, thanks to them). If you could use Amanda's and Nick's services, feel free to e-mail me and I'll provide contact information. Pat also expressed concern for Amanda's and Nick's son, Pat's grandson, Scott. Starting a college fund now is an idea. Regarding expanding the "circle," I recall the way this group generously contributed to the "Leslie Project." This project put together a home theater system for a young woman who was paralyzed when she was hit by a drunk driver. The system was presented to Leslie on August 15, 2004. Ozfly (amazingly!) purchased a new Denon home theater receiver, but the rest of the equipment was more or less spare equipment (and music and videos) that members had and generously donated. Perhaps someone could act as the repository for such equipment (and music and videos), and when a system can be assembled, we could find some needy soul who could benefit from having music in their life. Perhaps we could coordinate with an agency that, say, specializes in assisting the paralyzed, the blind, or those with some other disability. The equipment could be donated in Pat's name -- The Patrick P. Malone Memorial Audio Award. Perhaps, too, it could structured so Barb could utilize the charitable giving tax deduction (if it's legal -- I don't do tax work). Of course, Barb knew Pat the best, and so I encourage her weighing in on the subject to help us do something that Pat would most enjoy, and that honors his spirit. What does everyone think? Best regards, Paul |
I am sorry and sadded with tears as I read that Patrick has pass on. My condolences to the Malone family. Thank you O Lord for sharing Patrick with us, his life with his family and friends and for his knowledge to those from afar. Grant Pat eternal life as he enters Your Heavenly Kingdom and give us the strength to endure the void left from Your shinning star. Amen Forever and Again Richard |
Dear Barb, I've thought of Lugnut many times in the past few days, and express my sympathy fopr your loss. As you can tell, many here are feeling Pat's loss, and while my dealings with him were not nearly as numerous as others here, I was always impressed by his pleasent manner, and desire to help. As others have noted, we'd be pleased to try to help you as you may need. Please just ask. Rest in Peace, Pat. |
Got home last night from 5 days in Sanibel. Come into a cold house at 11pm and do you know what the very first thing I do? Boot up my computer, skip my 43 emails and go directly to Audiogon to check on Lugnut, who was in my prayers as I ran along the Gulf coast. enjoy the music Pat. see you soon. peace and love to you and your family. Rest gently.....love, warren |
Barb, I'm glad to hear you decided on Gracie. A tribute to the past, as well as a reminder of the grace Pat has experienced. I will be spinning Praire Wind this afternoon along with Amused to Death. At first blush it seems inappropriate, but Roger Waters deals with some very complex themes, including, tragic loss, and that many people have trivialized their own lives as well as human life in general. Pat on the other hand understood the importance of this life, as preparation for the next. Pat, we're not tailgating, we're drafting! Thanks for leading the way. Barb, you are no less in my prayers today than you were last week. |
Dear barb and The Malone Family, My family and I are thinking of you all today. A lyric from a Dylan song seems to sum up Pat, this thread and what he's meant to us all better than any words I could come up with: And every one of them words rang true And glowed like burnin' coal Pourin' off of every page Like it was written in my soul from me to you, Tangled up in blue. I am more tangled up than you'll ever know. I envy you having had such a great spirit to have shared your life with. Thanks for sharing him with us. I'm getting out my Decade CD now. I'll be sending a letter as you suggested to Pat's grandchildren. Bless you and yours, J.SONIC |
