About Lugnut -- Patrick Malone
Kirsten, thanks for being here. I have enjoyed your input. I'm sure it's hard for Barb in general, and specifically to maintain a presence here. I got a kick out of thread earlier when you mentioned the Eleanor McEvoy. I wasn't sure if Pat liked the LP but appearently it went over okay. I had the pleasure to talk with Pat a lot of times before his passing. We talked about Barb, and his concerns for her, and about his beloved daughters. He told me he was proud of you for your maturity and independence. I'm not trying to blow smoke, or whatever since I doubt that I will ever meet you, but I want to be sure you know what he shared with me. All of us take regrets to our graves, but we also have a heart full of things about which we take a lot of pride and joy. Pat took pride in the fact of who you are. PS and I'm glad you're here sharing with us. |
Dear Barb and Kirsten and all of the Malone extended family, I hope you all have a Merry Christmas although I imagine this holiday will be especially hard. Pat is now part of the light in the star on our Xmas trees. May he forever shine. Thank you for letting us celebrate his life and passing. All good things, J.SONIC |
with the arrival of Christmas eve, I tend to look to my blessings and the people who have entered my life over the past year. This has been a bitter sweet year. I have found two local audio friends, and met quite a few e-friends. I was fortunate enough to re-discover my extended family this summer as we had a family reunion for the first time in 25 years. My family and my local friends continue to be my purpose to live, and I was lucky enough to add another important piece to my life. I am spending four hours a week volunteering in the Architectural drafting program at the high school(the same program that I got my start) No one has influenced 2005 as greatly as Pat, Barb and now Kirsten. My faith has always been strong, but Pat was witness to the love we all share within our souls. I know this is hard Barb, you do not walk it alone however. So much love and honesty was discovered from your selfless journey. In reflection of 2005, your family has no higher place in my heart. I love you Bard, Kirsten and Pat. May Pat's love encompass us all this holiday, for in 2005, Pat is home. His spirit will live forever in our heart, and his love is in our souls. Thank you Pat for an amazing year! jd |
Speaking of T-shirts, one of the items of Pat's that Barb was kind enough to send me turns out not to fit well enough for me to wear. It's a genuine traditional-style Levi's jean jacket, size 46R and in great shape, with 2 embroidered patches ironed and sewn on, one each above the left and right chest pockets, reflective of Pat's race car hobby: the "Nova" logo and the "Chevy II" logo. If anybody's interested, the right size, not a Mopar or Fomoco kinda guy or gal, and would value the memento, please contact me (Alex). Have a nice holiday Barb and everybody! |
I spoke with Barb on Christmas Day for quite a while. Her new puppy gives her great companionship and keeps her busy. It sounds like they have developed a comfortable routine. Barb has been working long hours at the post office due to the holiday rush, I'm sure, but she had a nice long weekend off to relax for Christmas. I believe it is hard for her to read through these posts, but I know she definitely feels the love and caring that comes from every one of you. I am grateful to those who have responded to my intrusion on this thread with kind and encouraging words. We had a nice weekend. We spent Christmas Eve with Aric's family and Christmas afternoon with mine. But the best part of the weekend was finding out that a $3 makeup brush would be out daughter's favorite gift, beating out the Bike, stuffed animals, clothes, tub toys, and other stuff people feel is necessary for a 30-month-old. In second place was Play Dough. She's such a good kid. We hope we do the right thing by her everyday, but mostly we wing it and she's still a joy. I hope all of you had a wonderful holiday. I truely believe that it's the little things that matter most. Sunday she said "Mewwy Kissmast, Mommy. It'd baby Jesus birfday!" I don't know for sure that she knew what it meant, but it was nice to hear. At least she didn't come at me with a list of presents she wanted but didn't get. That'll happen next year!! Any good ideas for holiday music?? Kirsten |
Kirsten: Thank you for your participation in this thread and for the account your holiday. Your daughter sounds adorable. Since you asked for seasonal music, I'll give you my favorite: "Our Heart's Joy" by Chanticleer, an outstanding male vocal group based in San Francisco. The DVD of their Christmas concert at the Met in New York is even better. The best way to get their recordings is via their web. Chris |
Hi Everyone - Last night I was finally able to bring myself back to this thread. As I read the words my tears began to cover the keyboard. Then Gracie jumped into my lap, licked by face with kisses and then ran off with my wet kleenex to chew it up into a million white pieces! That was when I decided that I had to wait until this morning to respond. Every morning when I got up Pat would already be typing vigorously on the computer to all this buddies. But he would look up at me and say "Have I told you today that you are pretty?" and I would say "Have I told YOU today that I love you?" We never missed a day all last year while he was sick. Now Gracie and I have the same routine. First of all. Thank you so much for all the kind words and well wishes for the holidays on this thread and all the beautiful cards I received in the mail and of course all of the phone calls and messages. And a very special thank you to Lou and Gina for the beautiful package containing the hard copy book of this thread (all 265 pages!!) along with several CDr copies and a beautiful afghan for me (which will be displayed in the music room) and a blanket for Amanda created and made by Gina. Thank you for honoring Pat's request - we will cherish these things forever. I cannot even begin to explain in words how difficult the grieving has been for me since Pat passed away. When a person grieves the loss of a loved one - it is your own personal experience. That's when you turn to the Lord and remember "Footprints in the Sand." Recently some dear friends and I celebrated our wedding anniversary with a small get-together in our home. Pat always cherished companionship and good conversation. It was a very nice rememberance. These last few days have been very sad for me though because I did not want to leave 2005 and start a New Year without Pat. But I rose to the occasion and carried those 32 years of memories with me as I stepped into the year 2006. Then I listened to "Prairie Wind" and reflected. There is still lots of frozen puppy poop in the back yard and the house is turning into a barn since I let the outdoor cat "Lugnut" back in the house with Gracie and I (Pat would not approve). But I am looking forward to going to Sacramento next weekend to visit Howard and Gina (now Pat would approve). Gracie will stay at our friend's farm where she was born and be with her extended family for lots of doggy fun. I am really glad that Kirsten joined this thread and that you all have been so gracious to her. I know that would put a great big smile of Pat's face! We were forunate to have found her and built a special relationship with the time that we all had together. We will continue to remain close. Happy New Year to everyone on Audiogon and thank you so much for keeping Pat's memory alive and honoring his life with music. God Blesses us all - Barb PS - I have a few of Pat's T-shirts left (plain colors XL). Let me know if you are interested. http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/afgan.jpg |
Barb, It was nice of you to drop by and share your feelings with us. It is always an emotional roller coaster to go through the Holidays without having loved ones around who have recently passed away. It was rough for me too because my favorite uncle passed away on December 29th 2004, my dad passed April 2, 2005 and then Patrick on November 10th. Stepping into 2006 required being with loved ones. Thank you for the kind words about the book and afghan. The picture of you holding it by the Christmas tree is priceless. Also, the wonderful Christmas card, pictures and special thank you. You are very welcome and it was our pleasure to do these things for you. Remember to wrap youself in the afghan to feel the warmth and love that has been sent to you by so many people I hope you won’t mind but I thought I would share what we wrote in the card that accompanied the afghan with the Audiogon community. Memorial Afghan for Barb Made by Gina Bruno The center purple block / heart (color chosen due to Pat’s Purple Haze listening room) represents the soul and spirit of Patrick “Lugnut” Malone. The surrounding hearts are all the people who shared their own thoughts, feelings, prayers, stories, caring and love for Pat. The purple and white threads on the outside boarder represent the Audiogon Community who have read this thread and learned so much about Lugnut, fellow Audiogoners, and themselves as they traveled with him during the last stage of his life’s journey here on Earth. The intertwined colors symbolize how Pat’s thoughts and feelings, communicated via postings, Emails, and telephone calls, has created a legacy and community that surrounds and supports each other, friends and, especially Barb, Amanda and the rest of the Malone family. Patrick “Lugnut” Malone certainly touched many hearts by his grace, humor, courage, honesty, sharing and caring nature, and has made each of us infinitely richer for knowing him.” Peace, love and blessings, Lou & Gina Bruno |
Hard to believe Pat has been gone four months as of today. I don't intend to speak for Barb, but I do know its been real difficult for her and Amanda. We had a nice talk a few weeks ago and slowly but surely, things are getting better for both of them. There are still some miles to go but the road is getting a little less bumpy. Gracie is a real cutie and keeps Barb on her toes, much like Pat did. I think Pat was harder on the furniture than Gracie is though. I want to pass on one more thing. Pat arranged for flowers to be delivered to Barb on this Valentine's day. It seems to me that Pat might be like Elvis, never really gone and there might even be an occasional sighting now and then in a blues bar in Chicago or maybe at a Neil Young concert in Seattle. Maybe. |
. I think there might rarely be the day that goes by that something does not remind me of Pat and then I think of how all of it does not seem real. . Greg, Thanks for writing the post that got us talking about Pat again. I hope he somehow knows that we are all still thinking about him and missing him. . Barb & Amanda, I hope that somehow, your load is starting to get a bit lighter. . Pat, I hope you can hear us and feel us. . Larry . |
Hello Barb, While I have not kept up with this thread as much as I might have liked, I'm hoping that my words will somehow give you hope and comfort. It has been four months for you in your loss and four years for my wife and I since we lost our youngest son, Michael. We did not have the privilege to converse with Michael over his 22 years but we did get to know him through his expresions and outward personality that he expressed through sounds and body language. Obviously, you have had the good fortune to have heard directly from Pat how much he loved you and appreciated all that you guys had together. I know that you hold that dear and you will never lose it. I do envy you that, in the most beautiful way possible. I'm just curious here, but are you fortunate enough to have recordings of Pat? This seems so obvious but it is surprising how many people forget to do this. I appologize if this has been brought up before. We do have tapes of Michael, both audio and video, and it does get easier to enjoy these, with time. It is funny that I was also involved in drag racing for a time in my life. Vw's, Ha! Pat would probably have remembered, and laughed at, those days in the late 60's and 70's when one could, somehow, compete with a 4 cylinder rear-enigne car! Hey, I got mine to 11:40's at 110 mph before I gave it up. God bless and give you peace! |
I am in the middle of moving to my new apartment. I will have to "Lugnut" my system once I get there. Ironically in the midst of not wanting to forget Pat, my older sister died on Monday. She was the perfect big sister who pullled my bacon form the fire more than once and asked for nothing in return. |
I never knew Pat beyond the world of e-mail but we got chatting along on good terms some while before he got ill. Being a kind guy and knowing I collected Dylan stuff he sent me a rare Dylan mag from the 60's.....I guess that was his style. I always fancied a beer with him but it was never to be. Before he died I sent Pat a ultrasound scan of Eileen's and I unborn baby. He was well chuffed because we got chatting about names and I made him a promise. That promise entered into this world just little over three hours ago and he's called Benjamin Patrick Campbell, a lovely little guy,light but long with hands like shovels and the longest fingers you've ever seen. God bless you Pat and my beautiful baby and his mother. |
Jond I posted Barb, first I might add, at Pat's old e-mail which I believe she was using. If anyone has another contact,let me know. Thanks a very tired and emotional Ben. PS. Just after birth the fire alarm in the hospital (different building but loud and annoying all the same) went off-the wee man sat awake and relaxed all through the 45 mins of it. Eileen commented "he's heard your taste in music he probably finds that soothing........" |
Nate, do you remember what a kick Pat got out of seeing all the birds and squirrels that live in my front yard? Pat literally laughed out loud when he saw I could call Squirrel girl down from tree to retrieve a slice of bread. I know, it's silly amusement, but better than much of what passes for entertainment on TV these days :^). |
