Hello Barb,
While I have not kept up with this thread as much as I might have liked, I'm hoping that my words will somehow give you hope and comfort.
It has been four months for you in your loss and four years for my wife and I since we lost our youngest son, Michael. We did not have the privilege to converse with Michael over his 22 years but we did get to know him through his expresions and outward personality that he expressed through sounds and body language.
Obviously, you have had the good fortune to have heard directly from Pat how much he loved you and appreciated all that you guys had together. I know that you hold that dear and you will never lose it. I do envy you that, in the most beautiful way possible. I'm just curious here, but are you fortunate enough to have recordings of Pat? This seems so obvious but it is surprising how many people forget to do this. I appologize if this has been brought up before. We do have tapes of Michael, both audio and video, and it does get easier to enjoy these, with time.
It is funny that I was also involved in drag racing for a time in my life. Vw's, Ha! Pat would probably have remembered, and laughed at, those days in the late 60's and 70's when one could, somehow, compete with a 4 cylinder rear-enigne car! Hey, I got mine to 11:40's at 110 mph before I gave it up.
God bless and give you peace!