On the wagon, off the wagon, put on repeat endlessly. The 'other' AA would be seriously frustrated or done with me.
AA for us
Is there such a place for us audiophiles: Audiophile's Anonymous? I feel that at this point that I am showing all signs of an addict and I am no longer a functioning addict, unfortunately.
The only upside is that it is distracting me from other harmful activities such as watching the news x hours a day.
Should the AA include counseling and support groups based on the specific affliction, i.e.:
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yes, added more @mitch2 and I added X that applies to me
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I have tamed my obsessive/compulsive hobby proclivities by re-framing what I wish to accomplish. Stated simply, I aspire to be content versus happy. I also strive to be wise versus omniscient in my decisions. The consumer market and advertising is geared toward "You can never be happy unless ... (fill in the blanks)." I certainly benefit from the experiences of fellow music enthusiasts. However, I stop reading when perceiving hubris or people asserting anything other than their equipment or experience is inferior. The foregoing perspective allows me to keep an open mind, evaluate alternatives, and take my time in making decisions. Also, I keep in mind that all material items are a limited edition. If a desired item goes out of production or is sold out, one can be assured that -- at some point -- it will be upgraded, replaced, or available in the used market place. In the interim, count your blessings and enjoy the music.
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@rock-on you have an approach, discipline and not a flawed OCD personality like mine. Still, your suggestions are golden and I will heed as much as I can! One note: I am not affected by marketing. HOWEVER, I am sucker for aesthetics so in a way that is marketing too, and in that sense, I am swayed - I am a collector of beautiful objects. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
@dekay ....*!* My imagination just imploded.....*sigh* ....or? *lacivious L* ;) | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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"We should consider our gears as music instrument . Once we buy a piano or a violon ; we keep it a very long time . We don't sell theme after two years , just because there are new ones on the market ." I don't have my 1/4, 1/2, 3/4, or full violins anymore. Those were starter instruments. I still have my viola from high school, and bought one/commissioned two violas d'amore, and certainly still have those. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
One cure is "buy once - cry once". - it takes longer to get to a decision. - that decision is better founded. - no second guessing/FOMO anymore. I also like Haroun - A British Audiophile's rule of thumb when upgrading: UPGRADE. Spend >3x as much, otherwise it is just shuffling deck chair on the Titanic. That is why I treated myself to a Rega Naia for early retirement after about 2 years of looking around. It's an endgame component. If you are curious what else is in my system, I posted in the "System" section. https://www.audiogon.com/systems/users/oberoniaomnia Has a picture of the Naia with DIY leveling base :-) | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Being mindful that every marriage and committed relationship is a personal choice, I have concluded it would not be wise to conceal my audio or sports memorabilia acquisitions or liquidations from my wife. Early in our marriage, we realized a joint bank account and open dialog was best for us. Our respective daily work schedules and family responsibilities were stressful enough without worrying if clandestine purchases could be orchestrated to avoid detection. Please understand I am not passing judgment. Conceding my wife of over 50 years does not share my enthusiasm for audio and seldom ventures into my dedicated music listening area, my enjoyment is enhanced by knowing she has given her seal of approval. Plus, she can read me like a book and has the art of internet research perfected. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
@oberoniaomnia again, you are treating me as if I were normal, without serious issues One must show up for the intervention and be talked to, as a patient, to start the healing. BTW British Audiophile is wicked awesome. You have an incredible system. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
sorry to hear that audio has become an obsession for you and that the fun factor has been replaced by fallout from that. I think travel is great. I am in Europe now and for the last week my internet reception was terrible. It’s liberating, really; I’ve been taking in new experiences and purging my mind of mental clutter.
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@deep_333 can we all name our kids Taylor not have this problem? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
*** Introducing the world premier *** "The 80 percent rule"
I improved my OCD with a hot new concept I like to call "The 80 percent rule" If I may, ghdprentice is a good example of this. Perfecting the last 20% when the first 80% is messed up. All too often, you optimize a fundamentally flawed system. This is common in HEA where "it’s all about that last 2%." IME, get the basics right and the other stuff doesn’t matter that much. It puts things in perspective: 2%, or even 20%, is not much compared to 80%. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
@grislybutter Not to worry friend. At some point the earth will twitch again on its axis and we will be in another ice age. The polar bears will laugh as we get buried under a mile of ice. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
@mijostyn oh, cool. What's the bad news then? | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
@grislybutter The earth will forget to twitch. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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@grislybutter If this is really more serious, then there are shopping addiction programs; audio GAS is just a variation on shopping addiction. The extreme case would be to go the Brittney route, getting a court appointed guardian for your financial matters. Glad you like my system. Most of it is one purchase after starter system. Speakers B&W CM6S2 -> Sibelius SG (single driver Voight tube: hi @cdc ): Very happy no need to change. (also a REL T9 sub) Integrated Rotel RA 1572 -> PrimaLuna EVO 300 Pre with Pass XA25 [no need to change, maybe a bit of tube rolling; might want to try do do two XA25 as monoblocks] TT: a bit longer train from Pro-ject 6.1 to bad HiEnd store recommended "upgrade" Thorens TD203 [POS] to VPI super prime scout [intermediate] to Rega Naia [endgame] PS from no name box to Vincent PHO 701 (ok) to EAT eglow petite [better] to ???? [endgame] [A Zesto SUT is on order] DAC: built-in Rotel integrated to HoloAudio May L2 [endgamish] Room treatment with furniture, books, plus home made stuff; all a no to low cost. Just to illustrate the path of UPGRADING when upgrading, and taking my time to do it. P.S. Tarun vs Haroun: did that from vague auditory memory. Got the vowels right at least. LOL. Haroun was the name of one of my TAs and later invited me to contribute a chapter to a book. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
@kennyc did you REALLY have to bring up my other problem???
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+1 Unfortunately you are correct. I have a friend that just chooses components individually… and doesn’t get the concept of synergy, and is stubborn, not listening to advice. He has a +$50K system that literally does not sound as good as a boom box. Absolutely no bass, lifeless. He occasionally buys another $10K piece and is disheartened all over again and just lets it sit in the living room unused. I could fix it in a day by swapping two components. | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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@asvjerry I have watched videos of the area, surreal... | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
That surrealism doesn't fade much, nor is it expected to for quite a while Finally got to drive over the large bridge you've likely seen in the videos. The bulk of the visible damage is South/East quadrant of the bridge to the river... We lived through that on the North/West quad, near the edge of that mud field. Grateful that we're pretty much unscathed with just the rigors of water for months being a daily chore. One could live in Gaza and really have a rational to bitch.. "SURVIVOR: ASHEVILLE" Dazed and bemused, J
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