Thumper’s Mother
I’ve been a member here for years. Increasingly, the discussions are peppered with cutesy comments and criticisms that reek of attention seeking behavior.
Please offer more respect to those around here that are innocent hobbyists. They are here to have fun talking about stereos, not be taken to task. I suspect you do it because this is your only available audience.
These are people. Some are dealing with tragedy, heartache, loss and loneliness. They are trying to forget about troubles and mean people, not engage them.
If you don’t like a post, or agree with a topic, or have a problem with sentence structure or punctuation, and can’t be helpful and respectful, keep your mouth shut and your hands in your pockets. Go start your own perfect discussion or seek out a narcissist forum in which to contribute.
I’ve read enough of this garbage to have earned my say. If more people would stand up, this would evaporate. It exists in real life only where it is tolerated. None of you would walk into a group of healthy men and pop off at the mouth. Some say you would I bet, but I know better. I’ve done it and highly recommend against it.
And don’t give me the ‘can’t stand the heat’ business. Most all of you can be helpful and respectful if you want. Pearls of wisdom don’t justify disrespect.
Let’s love each other and enjoy our hobby. Please?
@polkalover , I don't think that the moderators arbitrarily take it upon themselves to read and delete posts. My understanding is that if they receive a certain number of complaints (some one once said it was three) due to forum standards about a post, then they remove it. FTR, I didn't read your post that was deleted. |
Social interaction necessarily involves human needs.
This being an audio forum, being informative or seeking information in regard to things audio serves utilitarian needs.
And then we have the psycho/social needs, and who know what needs lurk here! Affirmation and attention are certainly two of the stronger needs, I see both play out both negatively and positively in this forum and all forums or human interactions. We'll never get away from this dynamic no matter how hard we try. Being ever mindful is a good place to start with people who have good intentions, slippage comes from lack of practice. Problem is there always a few who mindfully/willfully have bad or provocative intentions.
In a more benign vein, we have the mile wide and inch deep conundrum, vast majority of this all ephemeral or fluff. In other words don't take any of it too personal, this all just words vanishing into the ether of all the words ever spoken.
In any case, always good to see people bringing attention to these questions of human interaction. |
@immatthewj - I dont think anyone complained about the word I used - it’s most likely an algorithm that instantly deletes. |
Very thoughtful and well written contribution, thank you. I agree with most of your post, except the disappearing part. I’m splitting hairs, so to speak… Within this discussion @grislybutter reminded me of a time I was less than civil with him. The good news is I was able to apologize, and he accepted, bad news is my comment to him (and others no doubt) are still alive and well in this forum. It was a good lesson for me and maybe a cautionary tale for others. I’m reading a book titled, ‘taming the tongue.’ I’m most proud of myself when my words build up and encourage others, and most disappointed when I carelessly do the opposite. Best-
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@polkalover , I do not know for sure one way or the other about that, and I do not know what word you used, but I just typed the f-bomb as a post and since it did not instantly delete, I deleted it myself. Anyway, it really doesn't matter to me--I was just relating to you what I had read here about what it took to get a post deleted. |
UncleDemp references as fundamental a truth as there is. Disagreement in no way, shape or form should partake of contempt - because it hurts the contemptuous (in real time) even more then those they seek to hurt. Love derives from our most powerful instinct, empathy. There so the human race continues. We wouldn’t procreate enough or raise the offspring otherwise. When others fight for the right to show contempt (one small example only) say that they're intent on correcting pronunciation they are knowingly, gleefully spitting on the spirit of a message to focus on the very technical letter of it. These people almost inevitably have the control issues of someone desperate to control outside circumstances & people - in a fruitless attempt to so ineffectually compensate for their own out of control anxieties, fears & unresolved angers. Being annoyed with them is allowed as long as you also feel compassion for how much pain they’re in & how poorly they camouflage it. It’s a desperate cry for help, the intense irony of it being they won’t consider considering accepting any (from themselves by being mature and/or kind) or anyone else. That hardly means they should be excused however. The meaning of life at bottom is to learn & the rest of us can learn a great deal from their refusal to. G-d Bless. |
