I’ve been on here since 2008, time flies!
Thumper’s Mother
I’ve been a member here for years. Increasingly, the discussions are peppered with cutesy comments and criticisms that reek of attention seeking behavior.
Please offer more respect to those around here that are innocent hobbyists. They are here to have fun talking about stereos, not be taken to task. I suspect you do it because this is your only available audience.
These are people. Some are dealing with tragedy, heartache, loss and loneliness. They are trying to forget about troubles and mean people, not engage them.
If you don’t like a post, or agree with a topic, or have a problem with sentence structure or punctuation, and can’t be helpful and respectful, keep your mouth shut and your hands in your pockets. Go start your own perfect discussion or seek out a narcissist forum in which to contribute.
I’ve read enough of this garbage to have earned my say. If more people would stand up, this would evaporate. It exists in real life only where it is tolerated. None of you would walk into a group of healthy men and pop off at the mouth. Some say you would I bet, but I know better. I’ve done it and highly recommend against it.
And don’t give me the ‘can’t stand the heat’ business. Most all of you can be helpful and respectful if you want. Pearls of wisdom don’t justify disrespect.
Let’s love each other and enjoy our hobby. Please?
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I guess it’s ironic when you tell somebody if they don’t stop hitting their wife, you will hit them. The abuser becomes the victim, and we have a circular reference I suppose. But somehow that doesn’t sit well with me. So if I was to ask them to stop hitting their wife and they don’t, we have a conundrum. I’m never asked for your mercy, I asked for respect for innocent hobbyists that are here to have fun and belong. I’m a filthy hearted sinner, far from innocent, and likely don’t deserve your mercy. So stop picking at and browbeating people and I’ll shut my ironic, hypocritical mouth. I don’t think we need a button, I think if you feel you would get slapped in the mouth for saying something in person, it’s better left unsaid. I’m assuming you all are exposed to some men that are able and willing to redefine the scope of your freedom of speech. Think tow truck driver, not waitress, maybe that will help. I’m surprised my post was difficult to grasp, generally I am a clear communicator. |
I wish I could say I don’t fail daily to be the best person I could be, but that would be a lie. I’m impatient, self-centered, and prone to jump to conclusions. Sadly, this leads to my words being careless at times. But I promise I’m trying. Bottom line is, I need grace and need to extend grace to others. If we are aware and try to do our best caring for others, maybe that’s good enough. Maybe it has to be. I wish you all peace. |
I appreciate your service as a police officer. That job is beyond my level of courage, that’s for sure. Reading your post, I’m not sure I understand your point, but I respect it. If there is a choice of saving an innocent person without violence, of course that is the choice to make. However, if justice requires violence to save or defend an innocent person, I assume that is the job of law enforcement. I could have used a more apt example, it was not my goal to trivialize a very serious situation, my apologies to all if that was the result. I respect your opinion, but disagree. I think the majority of members here, given the chance, would promote the ‘keep it real’ crowd to another forum. The feeling I get is a few people here pee in the pool and tell the others to get out if they don’t like it. And sadly, the gentle, well mannered souls leave the pool. Don’t drink the water or eat the snow… |
Thanks for your well wishes! Best to you and all the fathers and grandfathers! Hope you all have an awesome day! I have a similar experience in another ‘off topic audio forum’. For the most part, it is good, clean fun. Bad behavior happens so rarely, it really stands out, and peer pressure keeps things in line. That is how I know the personal issues of several online audio hobbyists. I’m most protective of those suffering life’s hardest issues. I agree with you, I’ve learned a lot on here. In the past there were a handful of very well educated, experienced, and well spoken members that were patient to teach others. If you read in the archives, you have likely seen some of those posts, they stand out in the crowd. There are still some here, I hope they stay.
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Great conversation, fellas, your posts encourage me. Encouraging and protecting those in need brings out the best in me, Trust me, I’ve lived a rowdy life, and the thought of answering for my past chills me to the bone. My only choice seems to be to sort myself out and do better going forward. I recently saw a clip of Jim Carrey where he stating he had been through some rough times, and coming out of those times we all have a choice to become bitter and resentful, or turn toward mercy and forgiveness. (Paraphrased) We both found peace in our faith, and I struggle daily in that pursuit. Speaking up is somewhat risky, in person more than online of course, but the reward far surpasses my enjoyment from audio, or anything else for that matter. I encourage you look for opportunities, a kind word, a good deed, a note to somebody being torn into by one of life’s tragedies. It’s not going to save the world, but it may keep somebody from buckling under the strain. Many of you are way ahead of me, thank you for being an example. |
In Bambi, Thumper’s mother said ‘if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.’ One of my superiors in the Navy made it his own, and he said, ‘if you can’t say anything nice, keep your blankety blank mouth shut.’ Wish I had taken that advice more in my life! (Language aside, he was a pretty good role model for us young guys.) Best- |
@roxy54 I see how you think that. My impression of you is that you are a very smart person. I wish we could sit down and talk, I’d like to plead my case so to speak, and understand yours. I don’t consider myself religious, I belong to no church. I’m just a generic Christian. Religion has and does give Christ a bad name, at least in my opinion. But.. I’ve witnessed Christ save some desperate people from themselves when nothing else could/would, or even wanted to for that manner. But I respect your point, and agree with it, Best- |
Thanks for the thoughtful post. I read through that parable in Matthew yesterday morning. Your preamp story illustrates how far a bit of graciousness can go, and encourages me to remember how powerful my words can be to others. Both good and bad. I’m forever failing, but doing the best my filthy heart can do. Hope your weekend is awesome, sir. |
Very thoughtful and well written contribution, thank you. I agree with most of your post, except the disappearing part. I’m splitting hairs, so to speak… Within this discussion @grislybutter reminded me of a time I was less than civil with him. The good news is I was able to apologize, and he accepted, bad news is my comment to him (and others no doubt) are still alive and well in this forum. It was a good lesson for me and maybe a cautionary tale for others. I’m reading a book titled, ‘taming the tongue.’ I’m most proud of myself when my words build up and encourage others, and most disappointed when I carelessly do the opposite. Best-
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