A few questions regarding sensitivity.
a speaker with 90db sensitivity means roughly that it will deliver 90db at one meter distance at 1W right?
You are almost correct. :) Sensitivity is output vs. 2.83 V, regardless of Wattage. If your speaker is exactly 8 Ohms then 2.83V would correspond to 1 W.
You are correct that this measurement is from the front of the speaker. This measure is somewhat subjective as you must eyeball around 1 kHz.
The dispersion of a speaker is a complicated thing, and even within the same loudspeaker it varies greatly from driver to driver and depending on crossover design. If you are truly curious I suggest you look at the Stereophile speaker measurements for the off-axis measurements.
I think you are asking for sensitivity to do much more than it is intended. It's basic function is to explain how loud it will be vs. a reference input. What you seem to be trying to do is use this 1 number to explain the 3D soundfield produced by a speaker. No, it is not weird. Sensitivity and efficiency each do what they are intended to do.
If you want to understand the off axis response of a speaker you'll need different measurments, such as what Stereophile provides, and if you want to now how it will perform in your room, well that's something else entirely.