OK, solved the problem. Save for future reference.
Stereo sources go directly to the T+A amp, which drives the main speakers and the wireless input of the sub (which is processed by the sub’s internal crossover). No home theater components in the signal path.
But the Marantz is the gatekeeper for all multichannel sources. It sees the front speakers as "small," and assigns them a fairly high crossover that is complementary to the LFE crossover. The LFE channel goes to the sub’s LFE input (which bypasses the sub’s internal crossover). In this mode, the T+A amp is still nominally sending output to the sub, but it receives so little low-end content that there’s virtually no redundancy between the sub’s two inputs. This configuration also drives the sub, during MC playback, with a true LFE signal, not a mixdown of other channels.
Even the Oppo disc player fits into this relatively simple setup. Multichannel content goes directly to the Marantz via HDMI. Hirez DSD & PCM stereo goes directly to the T+A, via the Oppo’s second HDMI output -- thus, no HDCP constraints when playing SACD hirez stereo.
Of course, the proof is in the pudding, and it took a bit of fiddling and room-correction to nail down crossover frequencies & channel levels that make this all work. But it’s sounding mighty good right now.
The only thing I couldn't do is bypass the Marantz DAC & preamp for FL/FR output when playing multichannel. But that doesn't seem to be possible without some significant compromises in functionality. Oh well.
Regardless, I think we can safely say: "Problem solved."