What do you say to your audiophile friends who say you just listen to your equipment more

I'm in this for the gear as much as anything else, and no one can tell me I'm doing "audiophilia" wrong.

I'm a System Builder, not just an audiophile. Been doing this for about 35 years, since my early 20's. I have chosen to focus on a different aspect of the hobby, one that involves a great deal of variety of sound through building systems, which is one reason why I have some speakers for sale at the moment. I have allocated my time, money and energies to an alternative aspect of it that gives me far greater pleasure than experiencing the same system every day.  

My non audiophile friends know I'm a musician and concert sound mixer/producer so the audio geek thing makes sense to them. However, none of them gives a damn about my gear issues unless I'm using said gear to entertain them somehow, and even then the "short attention span because they don't actually care" eventually kicks in. Social situations like dinner parties or the like really aren't conducive to "active listening" nor should they be...people wanna drink and chat, and my jumping up and saying "listen to this!" lasts about 10 seconds. An organized "listening salon" thing where friends just sit and listen doesn't ever happen and that's fine with me. I've done "house concerts" featuring myself and some talented singer/songwriter friends, and those are great and everybody pays attention to a degree that makes it more intense in some ways than a more public show...all good.

I can't get my friends out of my listening chair long enough for me to say anything. So I stay off to the side and tap my toes.

I say the equipment doesn't provide any sound to listen to unless I am playing music through it. 

Everyone who listens to mine are mostly amazed by the vintage of the gear. Albeit modified and tweaked. They can’t believe a record from the 60s on a turntable from the 60s with amps from the 60s playing through those weird 50s speakers can sound like nothing they have ever heard before. I get a kick out of that.