This is what I find so mystifying. There isn't anything different about my Roon usage other than pushing it harder - 3 grouped zones, 3-4 remotes running, 11K albums, 152K tracks. Lots of Roon Tags and 500 or so unidentified albums.
So as far as I can tell the only difference would be the volume of usage, the size of the library (which isn't that unusual), the number of Tags.
Anyway, I probably should have switched around the title of this thread, which would be that the Roon forum is moderated to tone down discussion of stability issues. I do understand that many use it without it being unstable. Just keep your use moderate!