I stated, I thought clearing, that the reference is the face of the driver, not anywhere else.
It makes not difference whether or not you are direct driving ribbon speakers although you have to be careful. The tweeters have VERY low impedance, < 1 ohm and can burn up some amps. All planer dipoles benefit from subwoofers. It is not a mater of speed. Speed has nothing to do with it. Lack of spurious resonance's, time and phase coherence along with the right crossover point have a lot to do with it.
That is the wrong way to look at it lanx. Sounds that reach your ear after 10 ms are perceived as an echo. Less than 10 ms and they are perceived as one with the direct sound. That does not mean these sounds are not distorting what you are hearing, they are in a big way. They are sound that was not present on the recording and as such are distortion. They change frequency response (amplitude) and screw up phase affecting the image.
If is extremely hard to over dampen a room. Most system/rooms that I have auditioned are under dampened. What people think is dull and lifeless is generally much more accurate, they are just use to sizzling hot with echoes and have a hard time reorienting themselves. Turn the volume up, way up to 95 dB. If the sound wants to cut your throat you are underdamped.