WHY IS THERE SO MUCH HATE FOR THE HIGH END GEAR ON AUDIO GEAR?

I'm a aerospace engineer working with a bunch of electrical engineers. I trust them that they know what they are doing. When it comes to audio gear, I asked them why two things (tubes or say capacitors) with exactly the same measured electrical values sound different.  They smiled at me and said, "We are engineers. We can only measure what we can measure, but sometimes that isn't the whole story". 

If the people at ASR measure something they think that is the Bible, but not really. It is only the beginning. 

People generally are jealous of those who can afford high end gear at whatever price point they consider that to be.  Then they want to rationalize that their gear sounds at least as good or 95% as good at 1/2 the price.  In a few cases they might be right. But we all know that *sometimes* you do get more for your money. 

My system is about $15K now (soon to be $20K next year) and that is the limit I can comfortably spend, but would I love to have a $100K system.  Hell yeah!  I simply say, more power to you and enjoy. Life is short. Jealousy is a waste of time. 

First and foremost is you are dealing with MEN. "My cables bigger than your cable". With many years of marriage to the right woman along with having wonderful daughters I became a human being. OP, you are dealing with the same problem women face on any topic, men are annoying and eventually resort to all caps. :>) 

It's the first deadly sin: Pride. "I'm better than you so how can you have anything better than I have?' Clearly you cannot, therefore do not. 

Greed:  "I want what's mine- even if you think it's yours" 

Lying: to themselves and others about what they are, want and have. With a hearty eff you thrown in for good measure.

Anger: See above Eff you. 

I don't diss high gear. I rather  spend some of that dough on the room. But of course that doesn't feed the pockets of an audio dealer.

I've been in this enjoyable hobby for nearly 50 years now and I've yet to tire of it because the hobby is about getting us closer to the music we love. 

Audio is very subjective. Lots of differing opinions on how much one should spend on a system.  The bottom line is that we all have different budgets and should trust our own ears above all else when it comes to putting an audio system together. 

Happy Holidays! 😊👍