Musician vs. audiophile


We need direction here. My wife, a musician and says my Sophia 3s, powered by BAT 3VK IX tube pre amp and 250w solid state amp sounds flat compared to a freaking Best Buy box store McIntosh/Martin Logan setup...  I can't honestly disagree, specifically when our rig is at low volume.  It lacks color and punch, even with 2ea. JL 12" subs... Help me with your recommendation, please!!!      
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The Sophias are anything but flat, punchless and colorless.  Even with an average 250w ss amp ( assuming no impedence mismatch) and a BAT tube front end, the Sophias should give you dynamics and color. 
Either amp/ preamp mismatch, poor setup ( Wilson’s should be toed in so you can barely see the inside of each tweeter portion of the cabinet at your listening position) or cables. My $ is on bad positioning which will make the Sophia’s punchless, colorless and sterile.I agree that a Wilson dealer rep should be hired to have a look. They are truly great speakers if set up right.
Exactly Charles.
Indeed one of the members here might listen to the ops rig and not hear "flat" at all!
However deep down the only opinion of how it sounds that counts is the ops( and his good lady of course) so if flat and uninvolved to them then a fix is to be found.
I don't pretend to know what's going on with you, your wife, and your system.....but I'll second MarqMike:  Lots of musicians are apparently deaf to reproduced sound. I deal with musicians all the time and the variety of their reactions to the same recording thru the same system is bewildering.  

BTW, I have a small home studio and the recordings in question are sometimes my own efforts:  Recordings of people who were playing in the same space that playback is offered thru my system.  If there's a guy on guitar and a woman singing on the recording there will frequently be four or more opinions.  (Love my guitar, love her vocal, but hate the mix....or....love the mix, hate her vocal, love my guitar....etc.  Then you have her takes).

There's no rhyme or reason.

James Boyk, Pianist In Residence at the California Institute of Technology (where he teaches), is a performing musician, recording engineer at his label Performance Recordings, equipment reviewer, and long-time audiophile. In one talk he gave, he described how the timbre and tonality of his piano changes as a long-held notes/chord fades to silence, the relative strengths of the fundamentals and all their overtones changing as the notes fade. When he evaluates equipment, James listens for the ability of the product under test to reproduce that changing timbre he knows is contained in his recordings of he playing his piano. Wow! Last I heard, his monitor and pleasure listening system consisted a pair of the original Quad ESL’s, tube electronics, and a Linn Sondek table.

Most pro musicians are very concerned with the quality and character of the recorded sound of their guitar, voice, violin, piano, etc. Some of THEM are concerned to the point of obsession---Ry Cooder, for instance. To those musicians and singers, true-to-life timbre/tonality trumps all other concerns in recorded and playback sound quality---dynamics, phrasing, pace, etc., though also very important, take a back seat to the actual sound of their instrument and/or voice.

I would never discredit musician's opinion, because musician is the one who knows how instruments sound and should sound. Please find any musician who will like any Wilson speaker... any.