Take up drums at age 56?


I know this technically has nothing to do with high end audio but I know there are some drummers here that might be able to help me along here....or tell me to skip it altogether. And it does have to do with music.

I'm almost embarrassed to even post this. I'm 56. I have never played a musical instrument other than dabbling with a harmonica. I do not read music. I am certain that I'll never perform for anyone or play in a band.

But I've always wanted to play drums.

And now I have enough money to get a simple cheap used drum kit and I have a basement that is isolated enough to not bother the neighbors. (I actually have an acquaintance who refurbishes used drums who can probably hook me up).

So I have a couple of questions:

1) Can you teach yourself to play drums? Alone or with YouTube etc? Are actual lessons required? Can I skip the practice pad and start with a kit?

2) Is there any point? In other words, even if I were to learn to play are the drums the kind of instrument that you sit down and play for your own pleasure the way you would a guitar?

My realistic expectation is that I'd get a simple kit. Try to do something with it. Find that it is much harder to do than it looks, especially for a guy with two left feet. It sits in the basement for a while and then I sell it for a big loss but hopefully at least happy that I tried it.

Any other thoughts on the matter?

(If totally inappropriate for this site I have no problem removing the post.....especially if someone points me to a better site for the topic.)


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I've pretty much given up on Audiogon because of the heavy handed and arbitrary moderating but I wanted to come back to this thread to give an update since you guys are the ones who encouraged me to dabble in drums for the first time at age 56.
I've been practicing at least an hour every day, usually closer to two either on the kit or on the practice pad.
I bought the George Stone Stick Control book and I'm playing through it. Playing each of 24 exercises on a page for 1 minute each playing one page every day for one week.
I signed up for a paid online drum course called Drumeo which is extremely well done and well thought out.
Learning fills, beats, shuffles along with basic rudiments and limb independence exercises. All with the metronome most of the time.

Working on some play-alongs.
Can play through two rock/blues songs pretty accurately and reliably.
Have a homemade PA system that I like better than headphones. (75w Onkyo home theater receiver, giant B&W powered (200w) subwoofer and a set of old Bose bookshelves.) With a little tuning it works great and obviously I can keep the volume where I want it.
Enjoying this more than I thought I would. In fact, when I'm not practicing I'm watching how-to videos etc.
Because of that I'm not spending much time with my hi-fi system, sadly.
I still feel a little frustrated by the limitations of the e-kit. It just seems that no amount of tuning triggers and thresholds will get the subtlety out of the high hat and snare that I'm looking for. I might even pick up a real hi-hat and snare just to see.
Anyway, thanks for the advice and encouragement. I'm having a lot of fun. I have no real plans to do anything with this but you never know.
Glad to hear about your commitment to practice, and sounds like you're having fun. A real high hat sounds like a great idea.

You'll be missed on the forum.
Jim.

Did you take any lessons? I mean last year it must have been difficult. Cause my son is into drums and while we were stuck at home he had his classes online (oh heavens luckily his set is can be connected with headphones). Anyway, I hope you succeeded. 
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I had forgotten about this thread. So here is an update. Much of it verifies the great advice I got here.

For about the last 18 months I’ve been a member of Drumeo, a drum instruction web site. It is simply amazing. Set courses. Hundreds if not thousands of popular songs transcribed into notation that has a moving cursor as the song plays. Hundreds of drumless backing tracks. Can’t say enough about this site. So comprehensive. Lots of great teacher including a number of big names. Famularo. Bernard Purdie. etc. The regular staff teachers are excellent as well. All sessions have the music below the video with a moving cursor and metronome. I still have not taken an in-person lesson. I know it would be beneficial too.

Last month I bought an acoustic kit. It was not a specific kit I was looking for but when it came up on Craig’s List is was too good to pass up. It is a Yamaha Stage Custom Birch set with a small bass drum. It was purchased by a professional drummer as a travel kit right before COVID hit. Of course gigs ended and he was out of work so he had to sell it. Came with everything but cymbals, even cymbal stands, etc. It was like new. In fact, the snare and some of the hardware were in unopened boxes. It is an intermediate level kit. I bought some intermediate level cymbals to go with it.

It is in a storage room on the second floor under the eaves that we cleared out. It is a tight space but it works. I have moving blankets and acoustic foam on the walls. Two layers of rugs on the floor.

I sold my e-kit to buy a few cymbals. I miss the convenience of it but did not have room for it. I am more limited in the times I can practice due to volume but my wife says she can go to the other end of the house and not be bothered so that’s good.

Having said that, just in the last month I have learned more, faster, than I have in the previous 12 months. Ghost notes and subtle hi-hat work were just impossible (for me anyway) on the e-kit. Because of the greater ease of dynamics and more subtle techniques I’m enjoying myself way more and wanting to practice a lot more.

I posted a thread a while back about exploring jazz music for the first time. I listened a good bit for about a year and appreciated it but did not really fall in love with it. However, with this acoustic kit I find myself drawn to jazz. That in turn is making me appreciate jazz music more. I don’t think playing jazz is going to be my goal but practicing it is definitely making me a better drummer.

Sorry about the long post but part of the reason I’m enjoying this so much is all the advice I got here. (And yes, I have gotten a little OCD about tuning and cymbals etc. Already have a list of new drum heads I want!)

As time goes by I may look into some low volume cymbals and mutes for the drums if I need to extend practice time when volume would be an issue.
Very cool. My brother played drums in his later years, not the best drummer but he enjoyed it. 
That pretty much describes me. I don't think I'll ever be good but I'm having a lot of fun. Also learning a LOT. About drumming and technique of course but also about music in general, as well as about a lot of great drummers.

The thing that keeps me going is that at the level I'm at I am able to pick up most things if I stick to it and practice. There are a few things that my brain/body can't seem to master in the short term but even with those I feel like persistence would eventually work.

That's great to hear.  It's important that we have interests that take our minds off all the bad stuff going on in the world.  If you have any interest, you should check out some of the videos of orchestral snare drum playing.  Really amazing control at whisper-quiet dynamics and insane rhythmic shifts.  Like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9-n3k64H0EA
Great video. Reminds me of Bernard Purdie's ghost notes. You can't even see his hand move.