room size question.

You don't want room dimensions that cause standing waves/resonance. For example a 12x12x12' room would have a fundamental resonance of whatwever that frequency would be. Best to have a where the dimensions are not the same. Knock down a few walls, I'm sure your wife wouldn't mind!

i have not turned the subs off.           i guess my question is what would be the purpose of that ?

yes the gear is in between the speakers.      the stands are basically amp stands, so they are very low to the ground.

1) It is easy & free to try and the interaction of the subs with the speakers (particularly in a small room) may have an effect on sound stage.

@)I understand that you currently have your gear between your speakers, my question was:  in that listening environment that you previously had your system in, was your gear between your speakers then?

@armyslowrdr 

i will keep at it.      i have a few things i am going to try.

@immatthewj 

I understand that you currently have your gear between your speakers, my question was:  in that listening environment that you previously had your system in, was your gear between your speakers then?

equipment was in between the speakers at the other house  / system as well.    

biggest difference from there to here is the size of the room i had over there.

With the right speakers this will work fine. I wouldn't use speakers with lots of woofers. That makes it tough

Something to try would be to raise the speaker to a higher level so that the tweeter plane is at least at ear height.