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newbie, disappointed, curious..

I answered a classified for an amp that was listed for sale or trade. Contacted person and made a deal to trade amps. I suggested that we trade and make sure we are both happy and then finalize deal. He would rather finalize now so we made the deal and exchanged shipping information, etc. Today I rcv'd an email from him stating that he changed his mind- he needed the money. I assume that this is not the norm.. what do you think.. Isn't what we say (write) our word. I would not think of making a deal with someone and not following through, unless the item was stolen from my house before I could ship it.
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zenblaster
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redcarerra
55 posts
 
This kind of thing happens. I've had people agree to purchase an item, then they backed out. When I complained, they started accusing me of trying to rip them off and if I gave them bad feedback they would say all sorts of bad things about me. I've always been honorable and most people are here but not all. I say the best thing is to move on and just be glad it wasn't worse.
unsound
7,329 posts
 
If he agreed to the deal he should have followed through. We all depend on each other's integrity, if we aren't true to our word this thing we have here starts to fall apart. Still, bleep happens, and the deal was cancelled before the actual transaction took motion. Perhaps it was all for the best, but I for one wouldn't want to promote this idea as acceptable.
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audphile1
4,920 posts
 
get used to it. there are no commitments, unless something was sold at an auction and even then it means very little.
we are talking used audio gear.
I know how it feels, but this is perfectly normal. it was actually nice of him to let you know.
zenblaster OP
504 posts
 
after sleeping on it I agree with you folks- no blood no foul. I am fortunate that he backed out as soon as he did, before I actually sent it.
I still would never back out on a deal I made unless the circumstances were beyond my control. Thank you guys.

Mingles- I was going to ship at a predetirmined date. I don't know who would have paid if I had shipped but that would have sucked, 200 watts by Bryston is more than a little heavy
mrtennis
3,295 posts
 
as long as he changed his mind within a reasonable period of time, there should be no rpoblem.

when discussing a "deal", there should be some period during which either party should be allowed to back out.

if you are implying people should think before yhey speak, iagree. however, people are often impulsive, so some wiggle room is reasonable.
mingles
796 posts
 
We've all had people flake out when they said they wanted to buy something. I think it happens more often than you'd think. But trading is much more tricky. I'm curious how you agreed to swap. Were both of you going to send your amps simultaneously? Who would have picked up the costs if you sent yours and he backed out? Shipping a 50 lb amp isn't cheap.
lamcam
76 posts
 
At least he emailed you to let you know before you ship your item...that normal, people change mind.
prfont
89 posts
 
Zen,

People change their minds, a bus pulls out into traffic, changes lanes and moves on....

so should you.
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