Disagreements and Conflicts between Audiophiles have we lost our brotherhood and maturity?


I looked back over my posts and even my audio business dealings over the last 5 years and it seems like we have lost our ability to peacefully disagree or resolve disputes like grown men. Some of my best friends in this life are audiophiles and I enjoy the gear, the music and the brotherhood. I don’t enjoy the senseless spats. The inability to resolve conflicts and the people trying to destroy peoples business and reputations. Thoughts? 

calvinj

@curiousjim man I had a customer once was a good dude.  Got mad because I didn’t send him speaker cables to demo fast enough and went off on me. Man he was a good dude till that happened. Started going bad on me on this forum and others.   Man our cables made his system sing. Then he got mad and it all went bad.  Man I’m at a point where I want to help audiophiles.  That’s why I do free cable demos.  I give people opportunities with Infigo cables to try stuff. If they like it cool. If not then cool.   I listen to the music and our systems to make us happy. I’m not here to argue. I’m here to enjoy the tunes and the brotherhood. We just left Southwest Audiofest.  We were playing some blues. Lightnin Hopkins and just having a blast. Telling stories and nodding our heads to the great sound. That’s why I do this! 

The only person you have any control over is yourself. When dealing/conversing with others, set a positive example, don’t assume bad intent, and grant the other person some grace.

When buying and selling it matters who you deal with. If it smells bad, it probably is so, move on. There will be other opportunities. Since this is your business, find your own balance between sales and risk.  Consider your expectations and treatment of actual customers (who regularly purchase from you) vs. prospects.

When posting, if you have something to say then say it but, once is enough. Disagree respectively. If things deteriorate, step away. I would probably reserve the term brotherhood for my friends, but I certainly appreciate respect and maturity and I try to remember (not always successfully) that those qualities can start with me. At the end of the day, it’s just a stereo. Enjoy the music.

I'm guilty myself for participating in pretty bad discussions, but I'm learning to behave.  Late Almarg gave be an example how to behave that I will try to follow.

Some people have real passion for music and sound. For them it is much more than "just a stereo".

I am not one of them, by the way, music and sound are important to me but not to that degree.

Well, you already have someone on this thread referring to others as "mentally unstable," so I guess what else would you expect but conflict and disagreement?