1. Document everything. Preferrably as it happens on a calender or PDA. This is your proof of sincerety in the transaction.
2. Don't get in a negative feedback war. If she posts neg feedback, don't post neg feedback to her. Just rationally explain to all others (in the short box they give you to reply to feedback) "I cancelled my bid because she was unresponsive after xx tries." or something to that effect.
Negative feedback and temporary suspension from e-Bay is the extent of the worst that will happen to you. (Go to e-Bay Help and query on "non-bidding" for more info). The seller can sell to #2 or recoup her fees through the e-Bay non-paying bidder policy.
2. Don't get in a negative feedback war. If she posts neg feedback, don't post neg feedback to her. Just rationally explain to all others (in the short box they give you to reply to feedback) "I cancelled my bid because she was unresponsive after xx tries." or something to that effect.
Negative feedback and temporary suspension from e-Bay is the extent of the worst that will happen to you. (Go to e-Bay Help and query on "non-bidding" for more info). The seller can sell to #2 or recoup her fees through the e-Bay non-paying bidder policy.