B&W 802D1 - How can I tame the brightness?

If you like the clarity you're getting but the brightness is too intense, perhaps something with a ribbon tweeter? 

I was very impressed with these and in your price range – you might consider the one up, too: https://apertura-audio.com/en/products/edena-evolution/

Yeah.  Stop fighting the bear and just sell them.  Plenty of other great options out there. 

listen to Vandersteen......sounds like music

you can tune easily with source selection cabling and power conditioning 

we had the same issue with the paradigm Personnas 

high resolution loudspeakers need careful matching 

give us a call we can assist you.

Dave and Troy

audio intellect NJ

In that price range, I recommend ATC SCM50 or SCM100 Active or Passive depending on the rest of your system. All the clarity and presence without any harshness.