I am a sub system user for 20 years now and have tried a number of things. One subs is very poor sounding. It “can” work for one seat but two subs is so much easier to integrate.
if you want infrasonics (bass below 20hz) the 18s will be much better than 12s. But almost all music is filter at 20hz. For movie and music 12s are 100% fine.
as for integrating with small 5.5” drivers… it will sound fine with either size until your speakers run out of steam at which point the subs will take over the sound signature. Just come down to how loud you listen. I would guess at 95db your speakers are starting to compress a bit. There is a reason theaters use compression drivers and or line arrays.
another way to look at it is which sub plays at a higher crossover. Low inductance light drivers can play very high and a crossover higher than standard might actually help you out. Sadly I fine anything over 80hz is pretty locatable though so sub placement would need to by right by your mains for higher crossovers.