He spent his life building a $1 million stereo. The real cost was unfathomable.

@desktopguy  There are an infinity of ways to be unhappy. This is one of them

Or both. Here’s a poem  

Make love

Make war

Do both

Get married 

@posbwp55 i thought your comments were well stated and thoughtful.

The world around us is our mirror, and judging someone does not define who they are—it defines who we are. More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves. The yardstick we use for ourselves is the yardstick we use for the world.

@tcotruvo ,

So, by your logic, given what’s written about him in the article, if anyone comes to the conclusion that he’s a selfish, self absorbed, no integrity jerk, then that’s who that person is also?? Interesting.

Question; what’s your judgment on say, reading an article about someone who sexually abused a child?? I find that detestable, do you? I find it that way because in part I believe it to be inherently disgusting and would never conceive of doing such a heinous thing. If you find it detestable, by your own words you find that detestable because you can’t accept it about yourself. So, unless there's something horribly wrong with you, which I doubt, your logic is flawed.

Correct me if I am wrong but there is only one person who had actually met this man. Believe none of what you read and half of what you see. As if there are no disgruntled children with an axe to grind. 

Judgment is part of life and it helps us differentiate between right and wrong. Having said this, true judgement can only come from knowing an individual sufficiently to discern their actions accurately. This no judgement stuff is feel-good nonsense that is moving society away from the belief in moral absolutes.