How do you listen?


Forgive me for having the impression that proper audiophilism involves assuming a comfortable sited position at the triangular apex of two fixed points with a meditative smile as aural sweetness is mindfully digested. My problem is I am a modern multi tasking spastic and cannot sit still without reading, watching silent football games, yelling at my kid, etc.etc. Is there a trick to achieving the serene stillness that I think many of you were divinely gifted?
sevestan
OP, the question I think worth asking is: do you think music is worth your attention? and Do you want to leave this earth having never given yourself over to one of the deepest experiences one can have?

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may. Seriously. Don't waste time with distraction. You never know. Live deeply, now.
Sevastan, if your system does not totally involve you in the music then you have work to do. It should not be an effort to be only involved in the music. Do you go to concerts? It should be like going to a concert except better. You don't have far to do to get to the bathroom:-)

Things that can make listening even more amazing are; closing ones eyes, turning out the lights, putting the kids in front of a Disney movie in another room and THC in moderate amounts. Vaping is more controllable.
Had a blind cat named "Noodles" and her hearing was so extreme I saw her whack a fly out of the air with one swipe....she also had the admirable ability to sit at peace in one position for hours. Perhaps I need to tap into my inner felinity.
I've a few different listening modes that include outside with a favorite cigar and an adult beverage,  either beer or bourbon, my secondary system rolling the blues, toasty warm in front of the fire pit, clear starry nights.  At a minimum its a 1.5 hour committment once I light up.  Backyard is heavily treed on 3 sides, somewhat amphitheater-ish, quite serene.  The occasional barking dog, gunshot (coons or coyotes) here or there, chainsaws long gone silent.

Inside it's a full on music refuge, 18 x 31 with an 8 foot ceiling, primary system complimentary adult beverage, zero distractions.  Amazing listening experiences, will have to wipe away the tears some nights it's that emotional...

Tertiary system for the indoor spa, fourth for workshop and garages.  Gotta have tunes whilst fiddling with the toys.

Everyday`s a Saturday when you retire!!!! Good stuff indeed.
OP, may I recommend that you work on having some diversity in life.  If you don't have a hobby or activity that you can divide your time with, I highly recommend you seek that out.  Of course, everyone is different, but I can say that for me having several activities pays dividends for when it is time to relax.  I enjoy mountain hiking.  I enjoy skiing.  I enjoy offshore fishing.  And there is always something to repair or upgrade in & around the house.  Listening to music is another "activity" (if one can really call it that) and can be enjoyed almost daily.  I find that by spending my time enjoying all of these other activities I am better able to sit in the sweet spot and fully engage with the music.  The sound quality plays a role here, too.  It is amazing to experience the sense of depth, imaging, and tonal balance.  But it's the music that takes you on the journey.
Anyway, I can only offer my views and yours may differ.  But I do believe that having several activities allows one to relax and enjoy other time spent in life.  In this case it is music and high fidelity that I am referring to.
Life is too short so just relax, and enjoy the music.