Ever feel like a "low dollar" customer that your dealer doesn't think worth their time?


I'm a careful researcher for audio gear and I also understand the value of brick and mortar stores. I am not OCD and I am not an irascible haggler. Indeed, I have told my local stores that if they carry something I like, I will buy from them and not try to find it cheaper on the net. I have purchased major pieces of gear from them.

Nevertheless, one local shop is erratic in how it treats me. Emails can take a long time to get acknowledged, and often exchanges take several back-and-forths to get clear questions answered. This shop sells gear at my price point and up to 10x more (think Wilson speakers, $7k power cords). I often feel I'm more like a fly buzzing around their heads than a valued customer trying to establish a customer-dealer relationship. I am trying to be loyal, but it makes me want to shop online. I could be reading the situation wrong, but this is definitely a pattern.

Has anyone else had the sense that they were too much of a "low dollar" customer to be worth the dealer's time?
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@lwin Wow. That's interesting. I was really trying to avoid that conclusion, but I think we all know when we're being given "the bum's rush." I do sense that the people at my shop know their stuff and I do feel like they've dealt more than fairly on purchases. That's why I have some cognitive dissonance about this other kind of treatment. But people are complicated, and what I think folks here are saying they like about their longtime dealers is consistent respect over a long period of time. Not just one good deal.

@devilboy WTF, indeed.

@mitch2 -- You're giving me the "talking to" I probably deserve to hear -- and which I'm already telling myself, however quietly. What makes it hard is that there is such value in *hearing things* that it seems worth it to put up with some mistreatment. But you're right — it is demeaning.
Here in NYC, there are numerous dealers who 'size up' their clientele.
It got so bad, I never wanted to deal with another dealer(namely one with S and S in their name).
I felt that way until I met with John Rutan at Audioconnection.
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I own a pair of Chapman audio loudspeakers that are my favorite by far. They are getting a little long in the tooth so I have been interested in hearing what more recent offerings sound like. They only have one dealer, located in Seattle. I am in Albuquerque. I contacted that dealer by email, text and phone to set a time to audition some new Chapmans, flew to Seattle, went to the store and nope the owner would not let me audition a pair unless I put money down with a commitment to purchase prior to hearing. Probably should’ve gotten on the ferry and headed over to Vashon Island and visited Stuart directly. Instead, I hopped in my rental and headed to Tacoma where a dealer let me sit for four hours listening to Vandersteen Quatro’s and Treo’s with no obligation whatsoever. Since that time, I’ve had a number of friends and acquaintances from Portland to San Juan Island ask me for component and full system recommendations. No guessing where I send them and who I tell them to avoid. They’ve spent thousands at Advanced Audio. 
Thanks for those stories. It makes me realize that it may wind up being necessary to support good brick/mortar dealers *somewhere* but necessarily down the road. I have heard numerous good things about John Rutan at Audioconnection. I'll go read about Advanced Audio, next.
Wow, I thought that it was just me. I never really forgot about an experience in Phoenix, Az where a buddy and I visited a High end retailer or two. The visit that I remember most was at a place called Jerry's. We walked in with cash to spare. Wanted to at least look at some McIntosh equipment. Two pieces in a row that we asked about were taken off the shelf as if they had a place to go. I really can't make this up, and it was obvious to both of us that we were in the way. We walked out. Next shop was completely different, but not so good either. They seemed to want to show how damned good the Quad ESL speakers were and they right. Never heard anything like them since. But with nose high in the air, the salesman seemed just want and let us know. That was the end of that shop. Dam! So the 3rd shop was two guys who were making speakers that were quite impressive for the day. They were friendly, ready to advise, and finally we got the feeling that we could actually be customers in the future if there was a need. Drove 100 miles to just look and maybe buy some equipment. If there was a sale to be made that day it would have gone to the 3rd shop.
 Thing is, I probably made more money and had more knowledge than any of the sales people in those stores, except perhaps the two who built their own product. Take note, we are not chumps, so how is treating people like that going to make you a living?