Very interesting OP. There used to be an argument that it was foolish to spend really big $$ on audio gear, better to use less money and attend a lot of live music. Or, if the budget is big enough, which these days for the cost of some systems, it would be,...have the musicians actually come to your home and play, live ( for less $$ than the system in question!).
OTOH, this doesn't work if you want to experience great sound whenever you have the wish to do so. So, our systems have to be the answer.
Yes, audio can be a real PITA, what with folks who always know what is best for you, others who are constantly looking to fleece you, many who are happy to tell you the latest and greatest and then in mere months insist it was an error and the piece is now a boat anchor...and on and on.
Plus, in our hobby, it is only too easy to go three steps backwards and two forward..and at extreme expense in addition.
Here's the thing, IMO, we all love music, and we all love what our systems can bring to our listening experiences, even if that is more fleeting for some than others. It's just a hobby after all...an expensive one, but one that can an does bring a lot of joy to a lot of folks. Best to hang in there