I’m so sorry to hear of your health issues. I know there is little we can do to help with that, but I’m sure we can help you and you wife sell that closet full of stuff.
All the best!
God, I hate to ask this…
Recent conversations with the oncologist have been replete with phrases like ‘stage 4’,metastasis’ and unappealing statistics applied to survival rates. While my real and financial affairs are well settled I am most perplexed with how to approach this large pile of audio stuff e.g. 3 secondary systems in addition to the primary one, several thousand lp’s, a similar number of CD’s/SACD’s, a closet full of cable etc. I am utterly confident that I am not alone in this. While I am comfortable that my wife will love and care for my dog I am less confident that the Avantgardes will elicit such emotional investment. Although my immediate inclination is to cling desperately to these treasured objects it seems patently unfeeling to expect someone else to deal with all of this. My wife will have enough to do. I could just divest myself of much of it and depend on the collection of headphones that I began to amass during the first illness. I really don’t want to do this. I would also like to pre-bequeath much of it to friends assuming that they wanted it but all of them have been adamant in their refusal to discuss this with me and probably will remain so until the 11th hour. As childlike as it seems, I am emotionally invested in these fruits of a lifelong passion and want them to end up where they will be respected and loved . This seems to be a juncture that we will all come to. I would be grateful to hear the contemplations that all you have had in this, admittedly, sobering matter.
To all of you, good cheer and good health.
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So sorry to know that you are in this terrible situation. I can't really add anything to this post on what would or should become of your equipment. I haven't read every response but yes TMR is an option or maybe a local / kind of local hifi shop could help you out. Im 55 and sometimes I think about this exact scenario, I'm divorced and single, have a son who is 29 that hasn't spoken to me for almost 5 years now because I asked him to go visit his 94 year old grandmother ( my mom) once in a while before she passes away; I asked him repeatedly to be honest and he never did and in the process turned his back on me as well. Now he couldn't visit her if he wanted to, she passed away last March. Well enough about my situation. I truly hope that you will beat this and be here to enjoy your system for many more years. I will keep you in my prayers tonight. Take care and God bless. |
@williamjohnston I'm very sorry to hear about your condition. Your dilemma about what to do with your system is something I've been considering, too. I've had recurring neck cancer: 2 rounds of chemo and radiation, a neck disection and am currently on immunotherapy in a clinical trial at the University of Chicago. I've already told my wife to contact TMR and I've pretty much paired down what I have to what is currently in use. I would encourage you to hold on to what you enjoy as long as you can enjoy it - but cull everything else to save your loved ones the headache of getting rid of it. This discussion, however, has made me reconsider whether gifting to a deserving and appreciative relative might be possible. I'm close to my dozen nieces and nephews and I think I will prepare a description and inventory, and circulate it to see if anyone is interested. I know that at least one niece and her husband are budding audiophiles. I would rather give it to someone in the family than sell it. By the way, I am in the South Loop and would be glad to help in any way. Just message me. Best wishes. |
You need to figure out for yourself what's important and what's less so. Do you have the time and energy to sort out where your equipment and music library will go? From what you describe that's the real issue. The unused equipment and maybe the secondary systems could be parted out now. The same for most of your music collection. If you want to give some things to people you know, then you should talk to them now and make the arrangements. For your high end/high dollar equipment you should discuss with your family the best ways to dispose of them. It should be no different then discussing real estate, vehicles or investment portfolios with them. You might prearrange working with a dealer to help on this. Not to sound macabre, but picking out your wake/sitting/funeral music can be a fun project. Music has the power to bring everybody together even under the most difficult circumstances. Best Wishes |
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