I listen mostly at 70-80dbs at my listening position and every now and then I’ll crank it up to 90db peaks, but that’s rare.
Went and saw a local Pink Floyd cover band a few weeks ago. Really excellent show with a crazy amount of special effects and props. The ear plugs only came out for the intermission and then they went right back in.
I sure don’t remember my ears hurting like this in my teens and twenties.