Disagreements and Conflicts between Audiophiles have we lost our brotherhood and maturity?


I looked back over my posts and even my audio business dealings over the last 5 years and it seems like we have lost our ability to peacefully disagree or resolve disputes like grown men. Some of my best friends in this life are audiophiles and I enjoy the gear, the music and the brotherhood. I don’t enjoy the senseless spats. The inability to resolve conflicts and the people trying to destroy peoples business and reputations. Thoughts? 

calvinj

Personally, I can’t blame the internet for a person’s lack of civility, integrity, character or common curtesy to their fellow man. The internet just exposes who they really are... One thing I know for sure is that the same behaviors eventually transfer to their everyday life. They are no different than the people keying Tesla vehicles. I’ve run into a few interesting people on this forum. Unfortunately, they won’t leave and keep repeating the same behaviors. In my case, I asked one person to leave the forum after he attacked another member. Even though he is a longtime member, he continues to treat people poorly over and over again.

Calvinj, surely, you are not reaching this conclusion just now!  This country has been seriously and sharply divided for at least the last decade, if not more.  The loss of civil discourse has been AWOL for quite some time now.  What whart and some others have pointed out is true.  Our sad state of affairs has brought out the trolls and idiots who are not interested in the truth.  They just want to fight, argue and denigrate in order to try to make themselves feel better or superior.  I joined this site because I wanted to get guidance, input and recommendations from fellow audiophiles and learn something new as I went along.  I also wanted to share what experiences I've had, along the way, in the hopes of helping others, as well.  This is a great thread, so far, but there's a tad bit too much cryin' in your beer here.  There are still plenty of good, honorable, compassionate, loving people in this old, battered world and I find that most of the audiophile posts I encounter on this site are respectful and well-intentioned.  Once you separate the chaff from the wheat (i.e.  less knowledgeable pretenders & outright fakes from the honest, truthful audiophiles), I find one is able to get great advice & guidance on this site.  That being said, however, nothing replaces doing your due diligence (i.e.  hearing it for yourself with your own two or however many ears you have).  Peace!  Love!  Remember those sentiments?    

I agree with all, but I usually  I dislike most arguments as they can be destructive in any relationship. But the old saying "There's one in every bar" rings true.  

Calvin,  Yes, I agree with your comments and post.  When a member asks others for their opinion on something there is always a group of folks (experts) who need to lambaste that person and shoot down their experience.  These negative encounters have trained me NOT to engage with this group as much as I have in the past.  Most threads that I may have something valuable to contribute to I just pass over due to the expected negative feedback.....

We all hear differently, enjoy many different genres of music & like many different aspects of hifi systems. Opinions & tastes cannot be right or wrong & anyone who’s married or been in a relationship for any length of time knows this well.

I’m guessing the average age of most people on this site is 50+ so we grew up w/ no or minimal internet, computers, cell phones & social media. Thus we all should know how to reasonably communicate in a sane & cordial manner having to do so directly or at least over the phone & probably know that we can learn from anyone

I’ve had a good or very good system since I was a teenager as time & money permitted some of which I built or modified & some just stock. I was in the pro sound industry many years ago & learned a lot  then. Some aspects of music reproduction I’m very familiar with & some, especially digital & streaming, not very much. I’ve learned a lot from many folks here, try to contribute occasionally & really appreciate & respect the knowledge & experience of many contributors. 
 

I just ignore or chuckle at those who want to make this an ego contest. They have to live w/ themselves which is punishment enough…