Need speaker suggestions for my evolving system!


Fair warning:  I'm a total newb - on this site & with audio gear - with a pretty decent (to me) budget and pretty tough WAF standards to meet.

My use case:
- Building a system for both music & tv/movies
- Living room is 17'w x 15'd, with 12' vaulted ceilings.
- Speakers on the 17' wall, facing a wall of windows
- The right side of the room (when looking at the speakers) opens to the dining room & kitchen.  So a pretty big space.
- Want speakers that can fill the room & rock out (my 9yr old likes impromptu dance parties), but also play well at low volumes, since that's when a lot of my listening happens. 

My journey, to date:
- Bought a used pair of Zu Dirty Weekends and LOVED them.  Full sound, super clear to me (coming from a soundbar, that's probably not saying much!), loads of bass even without a sub, and they could CRANK!
- Bought a used Marantz NR-1603 50wpc AV receiver to drive them.  Worked great!
- Wife was not at all happy with the DW's look (that 10" driver was a bit of a surprise), size (12" x 12" x "38), or color (deep, reddish Maple Sangria).  No matter how good they sounded, it was tough to get buy-in on them.
- Same hifi shop got a pair of used Totem Arros in cherry, which were a much better match in size & color.  I tried them out, and they sounded amazing at low-to-moderate volumes, especially with acoustic and vocal music.  I decided to keep them & sell the DWs.
- I love the Totem sound, and am still stunned by how clearly they create that broad soundstage!  It's like magic.
- But...they really struggle to fill the room - and don't seem to handle rock music very well, to my ears.
- Thinking that the Marantz was the issue, since it isn't rated for 4 ohm speakers, I splurged on a used Peachtree nova220se, which drives 350wpc at 4 ohm.  I figured that'd give them the boost they need.  I was wrong.
- With the Peachtree, low-volume listening is a bit fuller & clearer, which is great.  But I think the Arros just aren't made for rocking out - or at least not in a big room.  Perhaps their size & my basic understanding of physics should have made that connection.

So now I'm looking for suggestions on what I should consider, as replacements for the Totems, using the following criteria:
- Wood (maple, cherry) finish
- Small (< 38" tall, < 12" wide) form factor
- Capable of filling a room
- Similar imaging & clarity as the Totems (don't have much experience with other speakers)
- Priced ~$3k

There are some used Totem Forest Signatures I've had my eye on, and I saw that Zu is having a sale on their Soul Supremes ($3,700) which I might be able to make a case for.  But I haven't heard either.

Curious to hear what other speakers I should consider!

Thanks for the help!
ctpdx
@mofojo - thanks for the Tekton recommendation!  The Mini & Reference Lore models look like they might get wife approval, especially since you can have them custom painted.  And they're both smaller than the Zu DWs.

@motokokusanagi - wow, I hadn't looked at the Dynaudios, before - they're beautiful!  The Evoke 30s are more the size that I'm looking for; I'm going to see if there are any nearby that I could demo.

@213cobra - I feel so dumb for being so focused on the DWs that I forgot the Omens!  They are definitely a better price point, and reading up on them it seems like Zu can even do a customized anodized driver ring, which might actually alleviate one of my wife's biggest complaints (she wasn't as enamored of the aluminum ring as I was...).  Definitely an option to explore, as I really did love the sound of the DWs.

My local shop is an authorized KEF dealer, and they recommended I try out the R5s.  I showed my wife a picture and, surprisingly, she thought they looked "ok" (high praise!).  Anyone have any experience with those KEFs?  

Again, thank you all for these responses!  Your informed input is very much appreciated!
Imaging and soundstage is really good on the entire Kef R series. I find they lack bass. A good sub or two is almost required. 
KEFs don’t sound warm, IMO, though a lot of people like them for other reasons. Audition as many things as you can. Use the Arros as a benchmark. Ideally, take your amp along with you for demos, as pairing is a big factor.
Just to close this out (at least for the near term!), we had a surprise contender enter the ring, this week:  the KLH Model Fives.  A friend had sent a link to a review of them, and my wife actually thought their retro look would fit great in our MCM-style living room.  I read / watched reviews, and there was almost universal acclaim for them...even though most cited that they were not "audiophile" speakers, but more just musical, fun speakers.
Anyway, I decided to let my wife call this particular shot (since it's one that I'm pretty jazzed about, too) and see if I can get her a bit more hooked on this audio odyssey I've been on.  Fingers crossed!
Given how popular they are, there's a big backorder, so I should get a set by the end of November.  Here's hoping they live up to the hype!
Thanks again for all of the insight.  I definitely have a great list to consider for the NEXT upgrade!