Need speaker suggestions for my evolving system!


Fair warning:  I'm a total newb - on this site & with audio gear - with a pretty decent (to me) budget and pretty tough WAF standards to meet.

My use case:
- Building a system for both music & tv/movies
- Living room is 17'w x 15'd, with 12' vaulted ceilings.
- Speakers on the 17' wall, facing a wall of windows
- The right side of the room (when looking at the speakers) opens to the dining room & kitchen.  So a pretty big space.
- Want speakers that can fill the room & rock out (my 9yr old likes impromptu dance parties), but also play well at low volumes, since that's when a lot of my listening happens. 

My journey, to date:
- Bought a used pair of Zu Dirty Weekends and LOVED them.  Full sound, super clear to me (coming from a soundbar, that's probably not saying much!), loads of bass even without a sub, and they could CRANK!
- Bought a used Marantz NR-1603 50wpc AV receiver to drive them.  Worked great!
- Wife was not at all happy with the DW's look (that 10" driver was a bit of a surprise), size (12" x 12" x "38), or color (deep, reddish Maple Sangria).  No matter how good they sounded, it was tough to get buy-in on them.
- Same hifi shop got a pair of used Totem Arros in cherry, which were a much better match in size & color.  I tried them out, and they sounded amazing at low-to-moderate volumes, especially with acoustic and vocal music.  I decided to keep them & sell the DWs.
- I love the Totem sound, and am still stunned by how clearly they create that broad soundstage!  It's like magic.
- But...they really struggle to fill the room - and don't seem to handle rock music very well, to my ears.
- Thinking that the Marantz was the issue, since it isn't rated for 4 ohm speakers, I splurged on a used Peachtree nova220se, which drives 350wpc at 4 ohm.  I figured that'd give them the boost they need.  I was wrong.
- With the Peachtree, low-volume listening is a bit fuller & clearer, which is great.  But I think the Arros just aren't made for rocking out - or at least not in a big room.  Perhaps their size & my basic understanding of physics should have made that connection.

So now I'm looking for suggestions on what I should consider, as replacements for the Totems, using the following criteria:
- Wood (maple, cherry) finish
- Small (< 38" tall, < 12" wide) form factor
- Capable of filling a room
- Similar imaging & clarity as the Totems (don't have much experience with other speakers)
- Priced ~$3k

There are some used Totem Forest Signatures I've had my eye on, and I saw that Zu is having a sale on their Soul Supremes ($3,700) which I might be able to make a case for.  But I haven't heard either.

Curious to hear what other speakers I should consider!

Thanks for the help!
ctpdx
Don't worry about the wpc....its alot of BS...think about something. I have Polk lsim707 they are only 85s so they say you need 300 wpc to drive them....I have a Cayin A50t it's a tube amp it puts out 25 wpc tops....well I can play these speakers loud...Not wall snaking but my living room is 20x30 with cathedral ceiling and deck....Funny isn't it in wonder why ......lol
Ha!  @stereo5 is trying to get me killed!  :-)
Actually, we’d agreed on getting the DWs with a different finish the next time they went on sale - but the November sale got canceled.  Bummer.
I suppose I could wait, as $1,600 for new DWs is much more palatable than $3,700 for the Soul Supremes.  Although the SSs are slightly smaller form factor, and are supposed to sound fantastic…hmm.
And all my research suggested the Peachtree was a great integrated - especially because it’s a hybrid with a tube that can be activated to add some warmth.  Have folks had different experiences with them?  FWIW, my untrained ear doesn’t find its sound unappealing at all.
Oh, and I forgot to mention that all of my source material is via streaming thru a Bluesound Node. Not sure if that changes things.
I assume the Forest Signatures would create a bigger, more room-filling sound than the Arros, but would they be enough to fill a room of my size?  They are beautiful speakers…
Thanks so much for the responses!
@limomangus That’s both interesting and disheartening, as it’s be a lot easier (and cheaper!) if you could just run the numbers and figure out what would work.  Then again, I suppose that’s the fun part of this hobby, eh?  :-).  I’m definitely learning that there are a zillion variables, and that I can’t address all of them at once.  But that’s why it’s helpful to get this kind of input - so thanks!
I think the LSA-20 Signatures or Statements would do what you’re looking for.  Best of luck. 
Once you throw in the WAF you add a dimension which compromises
the final product. Which mistress is the to be the master?

So the real question is "Just how good is your marriage''?

If she is truly a keeper, show her the Sonus Faber line.

The LSAs are the poor man's version of Sonus Faber
and they are a great sounding speaker. Buy used and save
some $. Buy nothing you have not heard.

Good luck my friend!