Do we ask too much of our audio systems?


In high school, I taught myself to play guitar and later started playing in rock bands for about 10 years. I used a low powered mono tube record player in my bedroom to study Clapton, BB  King, Page, Hendrix, Beck and all guitar heros of the time and learn how to play. In those years, I never bothered to upgrade my system, mostly because nothing seemed to be able to replay what I experienced playing live in a band, with a Les Paul in hand and a screaming tube guitar amp. As the years went by I built half dozen speakers and had a decent Pioneer front end, using a Philips TT. My system sounded better, but never equalled the emotion and involvement of playing live. So, I guess I grew into Audiophilia thinking nothing is as good as live music. Now I have heard some very good systems and speakers, but still wonder..."am I chasing something un-attainable?" Do we ask too much from our audio systems?
dtapo
The biggest trap people fall into imho is expecting their system to make everything sound exactly the way they want things to sound as opposed to allowing you to hear what is in the recording.  That puts you into endless upgrade mode and is like chasing a holy grail that does not even exist. 

Every recording is different and runs the gamut from horrible sound to spot on sound.

Hearing what is in each recording is one of the big attractions of this hobby for me.
Live concerts are certainly a wonderful experience.  But when, really, do we ever get the perfect seating location?  At home, my "sweet spot" is, indeed, nearly perfect.  Imaging is nearly holographic.  And when I play one of those exceptionally well recorded/mastered/plated/pressed LPs it is such a beautiful experience.  Enjoy the music!
@mapman and @oregonpapa you guys are spot on are as many comments here. I'd like to add, there have been many live shows where the actual sound was pretty crappy--I surely don't want my system to sound like that!

Cheers all!
Anyone involved with photography knows that a camera cannot totally capture what the human eye sees; so, the same goes for our ears when comparing an audio system to a live concert or being a fly on the wall in a  recording studio.

So, I guess it comes down to:
                                                A) How realistic are your expectations?
                                                B) How big is your budget?
I keep reading that nothing beats live music for sound.  I think that depends upon the type of music.  I enjoy “hard guitar rock” (as opposed to heavy metal), but it comes off much better IMO on a recording than it does live.  Yes, it is fun to see the band up there before you jamming, and the enthusiasm of the crowd, but in my experience the live sound is more like noise than music.  I’m a big fan of Three Doors Down, and I was at their concert a couple of years ago, about 20 rows back, and the screams of their guitars made it impossible to tell who was playing what or what the singer was singing.  It was the same with Kenny Wayne Shepherd — much better on recordings than live.

Now, if I were into orchestra music, I can imagine it would be different.  That seems more suited to hearing individual instruments more than with rock music (plus the acoustics of symphonic halls versus those of your typical sports arena).  The closest I came was attending an open-area concert by Tony Bennett and his 4-piece backing band — very nice (though I’m sure he would be the first to admit that he didn’t have the pipes then that he had as a younger man.)  

But for someone like me that grew up with 60’s-70’s-80’s rock music, there was a reason that we complimented an artist that “sounds the same live as they do on their records”.  There have been few live albums that I have enjoyed as much or thought sounded as good as their studio albums.  Yet, I still like to go hear live music when I can.