Problem is that we are supposed to be trying to replicate a live performance in our listening room.
Not me, I’m definitely not doing this.
A friend creates home theatres and sets in room response flat with pretty darned accurate instrumentation and tells me that he has NEVER - not once, had a client that didn’t crank the gain on the sub channel.
So, to throw cold water on this whole conversation, you don’t want a flat in-room gated response. You want a smooth descending response. You want a flat power response, which is not the same. This further challenges the main position of the OP that audiophiles want a flat subwoofer. I do not, nor do any experts I know of. A truly flat response is shrill. No one does this. The quasi-anechoic measurements of Stereophile are not what you set your listening position targets to.
Taming bass modes, a smooth integration with the speakers and a descending frequency response are my main priorities.
Best,
E