Subwoofer Question

If your mains are rated to ~44Hz anechoic, then they cab be benefitting from some room gain, as well.  That, coupled with the subs crossover set way to high and you'll have a problem.  For proper handoff from the mains to the sub, you'll probably find that the crossover will be much lower than what it is now.  Probably something in the ~30's Hz range.  In addition to that, if you get the crossover set properly, you can then increase the volume a click or 2 to aid in finding the lower bass notes that you might not be hearing now.  Try that after you get the crossover finalized, though.

Keep in mind that the 60Hz crossover setting isn't a cliff.  There is some slope to that rolloff above 60Hz and those upper frequencies the sub is playing can be additive to the same frequencies the mains are playing.

I'd set the crossover on the sub lower to something like 40Hz and see how it goes first.