Getting a stylus to track a record optimally, even with a properly aligned cartridge, is tricky business and hard to nail exactly in words. You have to listen and try subtle adjustments if needed to nail it.
The goal should be to get the stylus to stay in contact with the grooves as best as possible.
In my experiences, in general, for best sound, with a well matched rig in good operating condition, its better to err on the side of slightly higher tracking force than the manufacturer recommends than lighter in order to keep the needle in contact with the grooves cleanly, particulary with better recordings that contain more modulation over a wide range of frequencies than most.
The goal should be to get the stylus to stay in contact with the grooves as best as possible.
In my experiences, in general, for best sound, with a well matched rig in good operating condition, its better to err on the side of slightly higher tracking force than the manufacturer recommends than lighter in order to keep the needle in contact with the grooves cleanly, particulary with better recordings that contain more modulation over a wide range of frequencies than most.