I doubt that your EAR is causing tube failures. I use one, and I find it to be very stable; but you never know. First of all, what tubes did you replace, and what did you replace them with (brand)? What you describe doesn't sound particularly unusual to me. I have experienced similar "mysteries" with tubes many times over the years that I have owned tube equipment. Interestingly, never with the EAR. My experience has been that no, it would not be terribly unusual to get two tubes out of three purchased that have section inbalance. As far as the old tubes getting noisy "all of a sudden", again, not terribly unusual when you consider that you where probably turning your EAR on and off much more often than usual, and perhaps with little time in between turn off and on. I find that tubes, particularly aging ones don't like that very much.
For the record, I have gotten the best results with Telefunken 12ax7's and GE 5751's in my EAR.
Good luck.