Is This the Essence of "The Audiophile Dilemma?

I think it’s more about not knowing what you’re looking for. A predictable byproduct of our modern way of buying without audition. In the old days you walked into a dealer and said “I like that one” and at least you were in the ballpark. I realize brick and mortar is on the decline, but that’s the way of the world.  

I think it’s very difficult for people to feel secure in their choices. I was a conservatory-trained musician and I also had my own music production company, so I know what I like when I hear it. Doesn’t make my taste more “correct” than anyone else’s, but it does make me confident in my choice. I can see the dilemma of the average person who hears all these reviewers talking about how great everything is, so they buy it and can’t understand why they don’t love it. IMO, the answer is to work with a good dealer or consultant who will help you find stuff you like, but as said above, these people are scarce nowadays.