I appreciate all the help and recommendations. All of you have valid points and can't disagree. However, let me reiterate the situation I am having. With the Hsu sub I had had more of a "presences" feel to bass drum and bass guitar but still without the boomy and muddy sound I don't like. Perhaps maybe the Hsu sub was ported and has a lower response than the REL that I am use to. In the contrary, the Rel just disappears but in a good way. I feel it producing the full audio spectrum and not a sub/sat combo even though it is.
I am actually using the high level connection and it wired properly. red to R, yellow to L and black to common ground on the amp chassis based on REL recommendation. As for the phase switch I have it 180. I have data to proof they are phase aligned. All you have to do is read phase traces on a graph interpret the slope angle. Again, I use Rational Acoustics for this since I have it available.
As of alot of you mention if one of the option was a defective sub. I really don't see or hear any defective issue with the sub. Maybe the gain staging in the Rel amp is not high enough but still is sufficient for my needs.
Overall conclusion to this is that REL sub is sufficiently great as long as it produces clean, musical bass with detail and definition.