Audio Friends Don't Let Audio Friends ...

DC,

Naturally I would have heard the "New Gear" in his system in order to have an opinion. 

I have made a point of visiting several people's home systems over the past year or so. Usually it sounds very good in some particular way but not always. Some really miss the mark even when these people had the funds to do it right.

One thing I have learned is the amount of money spent frequently has no relation to the quality of the sound.

Really kind of sad too. This is when I feel unsure what to say to the owners

It is a ticklish situation. I agree about not popping balloons.

Calz lays it out in a way I agree with. 

Pedro proposes another aspect I had not considered but

it quite valid. 

Nome- I do not follow your statement. Can you rephrase it for me?

Thanks,

Jsmith-

If you are invited to listen to someone's system and finish the 1st song

I feel like the host is waiting for some sort of an expression

of your impressions. Maybe they aren't but I always am. 

So regardless of whether they ask  or not the dilemma still exists.

In the end your suggestion is to follow Bambi's mother's proclamation 

that "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all". 

Still makes for an awkward moment for me.

Votped,

Yes louder will make effect or room more noticeable. 

If the owner is playing the system at levels above your

preference, reach into your pocket and insert your earplugs 

immediately. Then grab your coat and leave!!