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Why Put Up With "Wife Approval Factor"?

During the past few weeks there have been a number of posts regarding finding cables, racks, and other items that wives and girlfriends "approve" of. It would appear that some of these choices have to be made so as not to "disturb" or "change" some type of decorating plan. Or that the choices might "clash" with the existing decor or home layout.
This leads me to question just "how important" audio really is for some of these folks. Or to maybe tweak a few noses the wrong way, ask how henpecked are some of these people? Haven't they made it clear to the wife or girlfriend that audio is a serious long-term interest; not just an expensive way to play background music? Haven't they made it clear that a first rate audio system is every bit as important to them as a nice jewelry item or set of furniture is to the wife or girlfriend?
While I realize that some of us have the luxury of a dedicated listening room; for many of us the family room or
living room is where the bulk of our main audio systems reside. What's wrong with having a nice looking audio set-up
in those rooms? The days of "sitting rooms" where TV screens and audio equipment are hidden is long gone. The only places that type of space exist any longer are in those "decorator" magazines that show the homes of the well-to-do and other decorators.
What are your thoughts?
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porschecab
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Great reponses so far!!

Since my living room is 22 x 16 and the 16 consists of Aerial 10Ts outside, Aerial SW-12s (2) inside from there, with the Aerial CC-5 in the middle on the massive black stand, it is not the most attractive arrangement one could come up with. Since it is MY house, and she has moved in with ME, it will be dealt with. In California, when married, what you come into a marriage with is yours should you split. In Audio words, when you come into a house, what speakers/audio gear you see stays, and can be a revolving door.

It is a little easier when there is a Plasma on the back of the CC-5 stands and a 120" screen that drops in front for larger films. You see, I always enter a date/relationship with "this is why the addition needs to be finished!".

They love it!

Dan
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jmcgrogan2
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Be careful Sean, 6+ years is sneaking up on common law marraige. Maybe time for a new one.

John
kinsekd
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Ultrakaz, I loved your response! Under your logic, my wife must adore me because she lets me get away with murder, decor wise.
bishopwill
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Before taking the cloth your prelate was married for nearly twenty years to a woman with a passion for horses. Our arrangement was very clear: I won't tell you how to do your horse thing and you won't tell me how to do my sound thing. One or two times in the course of two decades she tried to put her foot down about something in the music room and was blithely ignored. I simply did not allow it to become a topic for disucssion any more than she would have allowed me any input about her custom-built Passier saddles. In fact, the notion of either of us having a controlling interest in the life of the other was foreign to both of us from the beginning.

Our marriage ended in a very amiable no-fault divorce but it had nothing to do with tolerance for each other's passions.

Communication, gentlement. And mutual respect.

will
lugnut
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I'd rather be lucky than good any day. My marriage proves it. My wife has never complained about any audio component I have owned. She has never taken issue with my demand for a home with concrete floor for the audio room. She has encouraged me to buy a Harley, didn't flinch at the cost of all the upgrades to the bike and helped me justify building a seriously fast pro-touring 67 Nova. This woman has bought me the toys of my dreams for Christmas/birthdays/anniversarys for over 30 years. Oh yeah, she has never asked me to turn the volume down. I'm unworthy.
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