how many have a WAF?

Although i'm not married, my situation is very similar to Craig's. We both keep our finances separately but pay jointly towards all common expenses. Since this gives us each a relatively good amount of financial freedom, who buys what with who's money never comes into question.

As to "acceptance factors" and making each other happy, i basically leave all of the interior decorating to her and she leaves all of the audio / video component selection and placement to me. After all, fair is fair : ) Sean
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Aj- Most humble appologize!!! How could I forget the handful of ladies that visit us here :)

To everyone-else thanks for the input, I am just at a curious point in my life-I also have more time now to "play" on the forums :)

Marakanetz-lol thanks man, needed the laugh!!! Very true, I should have been more detailed in what I was asking ;)

Hi guys,
I happen to be get married in 13 days! I have been with my fiance for 6 years now.
She will sometimes come downstairs and sit on the couch while I listen, but she is not really a participant. That is both good and bad but most of all it just is. It is the way she is and there are things in her life that I don't necessarily participate in.
We fight..sometimes. and mostly it is because one of us or both of us are irritable or something. That's one it's nice for use to be able to withdraw so to speak.
I am 41 so I have put off my first marriage for quite awhile. I used to say that I didn't think I would ever get married. Now I am happy to and also ready.
I enjoyed my years of being single and I have high hopes for the future married ones. It is all part of the life. The tragic thing is that this is the life we get and after each moment passes it is gone....Einmal est Keinmal for you Nietsche/ Kundera fans.
Well I ramble...
By the way for those who have split your finances...what if there are considerable differences in the amount of money you both earn? DOes it still work?

I just got engaged. Several of my ex girlfriends (and especially the ex wife) called my stereo the "other woman." Traci however, knows how much it means to me. For my birthday, she bought me a set of symposium rollerblocks, for Valentines Day, I got a Arcici Suspense rack. What a woman!

I respect the things that are important to her, she respects what's important to me.

JD, i can't answer that question. If you take into account all of the perks and benefits that my girlfriends' job offers, she makes more than i do !!!! As such, i still don't feel slighted by being forced to pay half the bills : )

As to your wedding, Congratulations !!! I am 38, never been married, etc... Like you, i have been with my girlfriend for 6 years. Right now, we feel no need to tie the not or go our separate ways, but you know how that goes. Things could go either way at the drop of a hat. While it is good that both of you are willing to make the commitment to see things through, i would discuss financial matters BEFORE you tie the not. I know that it's coming down to the wire, but better to have it out in the open than to have a lasting confrontation for the rest of your life. Sean