@hifi28 , Ideally the listening position would indeed be 3 meters / 10’, but 8-12 ‘ will work just fine. The set up would ideally be roughly an equilateral triangle between listeners and each speaker.
Your concerns regarding wall reflections directly behind your ears is well taken. However, if possible, the John Dunlavy approach to room treatment consisting of thick foam approximately 2” thick and covered in natural wool and placed directly on the wall behind the listening position can tame those reflections.
There are numerous advantages for such placement. If at all possible, it might be worth a try.