I’d rather have someone say, "It sounds just like we’ve been transported to the concert hall, jazz club, rock club’, than it sounds like they are in the room with us, when they hear my system. But that is my preference.
You are right!
It is not a taste or a preference, but an acoustic result when a system /room is under control...
If they are in " the room with you" but you are not there in the concert hall or jazz club with them to begin with it, is because the acoustic trade-off of the recording engineer is not revealed well in your system/room...
Our room must be erased by passive and active and acoustic and psycho-acoustic control to reveal some aspects of the recording original trade-off, then it is you who are there on the stage or near it, out of your room, with an intimate relation with the sound around you , not them in your room ...
It is my acoustic experience...