Re-read jabenso's post. A home is a reflection of those who live in it. I am among the lucky, my wife wants me to be happy, in all things. We do not "negotiate," how can one "negotiate" with half of ones self?
The opposite applies: I want her to be happy, It gives me pleasure to see her get what she wants.
Somehow, with this attitude, we don't fight much. I cringe every time my friends say "I have to see if thats o.k. with the wife.." Actually, they usually refer to "the wife" as "the boss" or worse. Curious, I never have to check, the answer is always the same, "sure, have fun"
I usually find myself saying "sure, no problem" a lot as well, it seems to come easily.
If you need a "Stratagy" to deal with the person you intend on spending all the rest of your days with, than you will be very busy stratagizing for a long time...
My 2 cents, not meant as a criticism.
Best of Luck,
Ron
The opposite applies: I want her to be happy, It gives me pleasure to see her get what she wants.
Somehow, with this attitude, we don't fight much. I cringe every time my friends say "I have to see if thats o.k. with the wife.." Actually, they usually refer to "the wife" as "the boss" or worse. Curious, I never have to check, the answer is always the same, "sure, have fun"
I usually find myself saying "sure, no problem" a lot as well, it seems to come easily.
If you need a "Stratagy" to deal with the person you intend on spending all the rest of your days with, than you will be very busy stratagizing for a long time...
My 2 cents, not meant as a criticism.
Best of Luck,
Ron