Qualitative Aspects to Your Dream Listening Room

I have noticed with both audio and home theatre that some rooms just arent very inviting to listen to music or watch a movie, despite the best of intentions.

Other rooms, however - sometimes quite small, cozy rooms, just seem to be made to curl up and while away the hours listening to music or watching a good movie or tw0.

I have noticed setting up different systems around my house that I dont like to think that I might be disturbing anyone else, or that someone might sneak up on me while listening or watching.

When a window is behind me, I sometimes get a sensation like someone is reading over my shoulder.

I tried watching movies in bed, but I really dont like it -it just seems too passive and self indulgent to really appreciate and critique something properly.

So let's hear your suggestions. Apart from the components, cables, room treatments etc....

.....what kinds of things? or food or drinks? or furniture - sofas or chairs? or cushions or pillows or lights.....books? pictures? privacy? would you have for your ultimate escape into music and movies?

Thanks for your ideas and suggestions.