I feel for you as I have chased the exact same issue with a spdif cable I had ( past tense most definitely!).
This was one that was of the locking rca end type and I guess it was already in its locked position when I pushed it home and like yourself I thought it was way tight and not possibly the cause of any issue, yeah right!
After wasting a couple hours wondering what the heck was wrong I tried different cable and perfect! Only then did I examine the culprit cable carefully and see it was a locking type that was already "locked" so preventing it engaging fully!
This was one that was of the locking rca end type and I guess it was already in its locked position when I pushed it home and like yourself I thought it was way tight and not possibly the cause of any issue, yeah right!
After wasting a couple hours wondering what the heck was wrong I tried different cable and perfect! Only then did I examine the culprit cable carefully and see it was a locking type that was already "locked" so preventing it engaging fully!