New-ish to Audiogon Forums... Is it always like this?

I have found the information and help many folks here offer extremely valuable, especially in terms of my decision-making before spending big bucks.On the other hand, I am strongly repelled by those who are unkind, rude, denigrating, or aggressive with their posts. One of my values is civil discourse, and it can be difficult to  tolerate the problem folks while I am gaining from the others.
As others have said, this seems to be the nature of anonymous forms.

Having asked quite a few of them, now I consider inane or unanswerable questions to be potential entryways into a dialogue that has a good chance to transform into something useful to both parties. On the receiving end of the help, the gain is obvious, but the opportunity to practice patience and pass on hard-earned experience and knowledge is also rewarding. Why else are we trying to help each other on here? My assumption is that some question askers are naive, or ignorant, or maybe not he brightest bulb in life's light fixture. So? A question can be a starting point in any case, and kindness is where it's at.
It's hard to see how anyone could argue with this perspective, but ironically--given the OP's concerns--maybe they will. And perhaps the tone of this will be objectionable to me. I know the risks. I'm posting anyway.