Universal problem my man - you gotta be a little slick, hook the system up and let it warm up, do some rollin, then do some listenin. My wife of 22 years has given up - she now tells me she wishes she was a stereo cause the attention would be awesome. I've made real progress because she used to say "why don't you go *&%##*&*&^ your stereo. cause silly I'd get shocked.
