Your list of speakers is great. I have heard all except the Joseph Audio's and liked each I listened to. The Devore idea is also a sound choice. While from an aesthetic perspective I like the Totems and Dynaudios best (and of course, this is highly subjective). Of the speakers I have heard, I guess I could say that the Totems are going to be a little hotter in the high end and the Spenders a little rolled off with the Epos, Dynaudios and Devores somewhere in between. Warning, if buying new, the Dynaudios will take a month of Sundays to break in fully.
Ultimately it is very difficult to tell you what you are going to like best in your listening room with your gear. My suggestion is that you look for nice copies of these used here on Agon and buy the first one that comes available. Try it in your home with your system and keep if you like it. If you aren't fully satisfied and paid a fair price, you will likely be able to sell and replace for the price of shipping.
Ultimately it is very difficult to tell you what you are going to like best in your listening room with your gear. My suggestion is that you look for nice copies of these used here on Agon and buy the first one that comes available. Try it in your home with your system and keep if you like it. If you aren't fully satisfied and paid a fair price, you will likely be able to sell and replace for the price of shipping.