What factors most contribute to a system's ability to portray a realistic impression of live music when listening from a separate room in the houseNo set-up that I've experienced is any approximation to live/ real. Having said that, a realistic portrayal of what is available AT the sweet spot often happens when:
1) Speakers have reasonable or better power response characteristics
2) Speakers have been set up with absolute care and are thereby fully coupled (that's extremely rare) -- that helps propagate the complimentary energy between the spkrs.
3) The Freq extension is acceptable or better from mid-bass downward.
4) Of course, there are some openings between the spkrs room and where you are standing. Otherwise you only hear the low freq.
5) In order to achieve some of the above, you need more than anaemic electronics, etc.
6) The first & second are most important. The rest is useful.