On the Kefs I would have Sub gain set at 0 or nominal, (dont use the controls on the KEF app to adjust sub, keep any filters off let the KEFS do what they do) then add the REL (it should be placed facing the center of the room in the corner to the left or right of the main speakers) follow instructions for adding sub in the REL manual. The REL blends with what the KEFS were already doing so dont change the KEF settings, once you get the frequency and volume dialed in on the REL you never touch it agian, just play the system adjusting volume on main speakers. Its key to dial in sub so that it is in corner (not all the way) of room and the air around it seems to be energized! The REL does have a voice coil and having it facing properly (towards your listening position) helps integrate with mains. Bass is not just felt its heard also!
Matt M
Matt M