Is this when you have "arrived??"

If your system can help you to learn to appreciate music passionately like this then you have not arrived at all.

Your journey has just begun...

I have several Lp's of hers that are good Coffee house music but not that album....kinda thankfully!

Understandable. I agree about the Coffee house angle.

A movie that explores similar themes is "Dear Frankie" directed by a woman ( no surprise there ) - again a tear jerker. Some men can't help responding to the damsel in distress. Others like to abuse them. Strange world.

Or realizing that his wife will never let him have it.

Absolutely! Good one. A wife with a permanent headache deserves respect but it would probably drive a man into depression.

I find Suzanne Vega's Luka is a tear jerker...you really feel for the tough but physically weaker woman being victimized by the bigger man. Yet she has courage - "Don't ask me", she says - knowing probably that her children might suffer if she involves police/social workers...in essence a terrible trap where she endures abuse for fear of escalation of violence and to protect her children who may still love their Dad (as all kids do)...sadly it happens all the time.

The story in the news from a small Austrian town is utterly horrific and repulsive...and probably something only a man would be capable of!